Bullied at work - AIBU to quit?

[Notcool1984]

I work in a male dominated office in middle management and have an overbearing and unreasonable boss. Work 10 hours extra a week (not unusual in my profession) for no extra paya.

Last year they hired someone new on my team who I am meant to be in charge of. Unfortunately he is a complete bully, undermining me, talking over me, sarky comments and even worse he is in cahoots with my boss.

Behind my back they have restructured the team, taking away some of my responsibilites and I am at the end of my tether. They speak in a vile way about other members of the team and it is clear for meetings with my boss that he values this male worker's opinion over mine (despite me being in charge).

The atmosphere at work is unbearable, I am having sleepness nights and being snippy with my kids. I could probably go down the union / HR route but I would still have to work with these two monsters every day (e.g. minimum two team meetings daily).

Would I be unreasonable to quit with no job to go to? I am employable in my field. Just pisses me off that I worked so hard within the organisation and it has all been ruined by an old boys bullying club :(

I have worked with people like him before.

Leave, but have another job to go to.

Def not unreasonable to quit because your job takes up most of hour week and you need to be happy. Unless you stick it out and look for other jobs at the same time so you're not jobless?
Alternatively you could try and resolve it? Speak to manager or HR or whoever in your workplace to help?
Definitely put your well-being first tho. You won't be able to work in an environment where you are not comfortably and dread going to. Plus you don't want to lose your confidence in your profession so stay strong. Good luck

If you have full employment rights with 2 years' service, your alternative could be to raise a grievance, stating what has happened.

It's outrageous, you shouldn't have to walk away from a job you enjoy because of their poor behaviour.

Thank you everyone.

Also try to get signed off work with stress, and raise a grievance with them whilst off. Whilst looking for a new job.

I don’t see why you should lose out due to their bullying behaviour. I would go off sick and look for a new job...

Research constructive dismissal and talk to ACAS.

Be aware that less than 5% of Constructive Dismissal cases are ever won by the employee, they are ridiculously difficult to prove.

HR are primarily there to support senior management and keep the business on the right side of the law when it comes to staffing. I wouldn't trust HR to support me in a case where it's a boys club. These boys will likely be matey with HR too.

I'd just disengage, do my work the best I could but actively seek other employment.

I really wouldn't recommend going off sick with stress as this could impact negatively on you getting offered a new position.

I would leave sorry op

I'd confidentially talk to HR but get another job in the meantime, it's far easier to get a job Shen you have a job

Thanks everyone. My notice period is three months so I think my best option is to hand it in and then start looking?

Such a shame this has happened, worked so hard in my career and job ruined my two utter morons..

I'd start applying for jobs and get ahead of the game before resigning, you shouldn't relinquish your position too early because of them, they aren't losing their employment are they. They get to carry on working, so dig your heals in and eek it out as long as possible. Then you'll have 3months in hand when you're further progressed with your job search. Indeed and CW jobs are good sites, all online submissions.

Agree with everyone saying find a job and then quit. You might be able to negotiate a shorter notice period.