Any advice please - I'm about to raise a grievance

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Pretty much as above, thanks. A colleague has spent years behaving unreasonably at work, and has recently put a lot of effort into acting as if they are my senior and implying that they will have management responsibility over me in the future (not a chance). I have been very subtly demeaned and experienced low level bullying from this person, and recently decided that a line had long been crossed and it was time for me to formally resolve this. I'm quite sure that this is the right plan, despite feeling very sick about the whole situation. It's taking such a long time to get going, and I feel so very underhand knowing that this is coming but that the colleague isn't yet aware. Any advice very much appreciated, particularly re how to keep my spirits up and not make the next few months all about this. I have lots of nice friends and activities, so I'm not feeling isolated, but I feel as if I want to talk about this all the time.

Thanks.

I'm so sorry that's the position you're in. Perhaps we should do one of those double murders you read about in crime books, where you each do in the other person's intended victim! (Totally kidding, nice government spies...). Sending hugs of support x

I'm about to raise a grievance for pregnancy discrimination and even with the support of a solicitor I am terrified!

I'm so sorry about some of these stories. :(

Do your workplaces have Occ health who can refer you to councellors or agencies that can help with your mental health and anxiety? It isn't right that you are left like this.

I've experienced people complaining informally about the bully but back down when they are asked to put it in writing. Like a pp said, don't trust anyone, people are only interested in covering their own arses. Don't be used as the catalyst for management to finally get round to dealing with this, don't drag other people into it, just think of yourself. Management can be very weak and sweep things under the carpet because they don't want to deal with it.

Something to remember, the company is wholly responsible for its employees behaviour. If you have taken out grievances before and they have not been addressed, you have followed procedure. It is not your job to sort it out, point out to HR that you hold them responsible.