Poisonous work environment

[losingthewillfast]

I've never got on well with my manager who has a reputation for being very difficult and this has been made worse by the fact that for purely personal reasons he has decided that he really dislikes me.

Any attempt at communicating with him is met with tutting, sighs, rolling eyes etc etc. Very childish behaviour and not at all professional.

I'm currently in the process of being forced out of my role by my manager and the rest of the team -i'm being overlooked for training and opportunities given to staff members below me, one in particular who is being set up to apply for my role which i'm currently doing temporarily (albeit for almost 3 years), even though they have next to no experience.

The working environment is currently so, so unpleasant. I'm being ignored, sidelined and overlooked. Senior management are unwilling to step in and are even overlooking serious HR issues which could mean gross misconduct for certain members of staff.

Has anyone else gone through something similar and did it have a good outcome? Most of my colleagues are lovely, professoinal and trustworthy but there is a group of people who are seemingly above the law and are behaving shockingly. It feels really toxic and i can't believe the actions of people who i'm sure consider themselves to be acting perfectly acceptably.

I love my job and would not find anything so amazing in this field but i'm very tempted to just cut my losses as it's making me ill.

In my experience, when it gets as bad as you describe, the relationship is soured and for whatever reason the chemistry isn't there with you, it probably won't get better because they've already formed their opinion of you and that's very difficult to change or rehabilitate. It's that "face doesn't fit" situation most people have experienced at one time or another

You mention you've been doing a temporary role for about 3 years. Is this an addition to your regular role for which your employment terms and conditions apply, I'm not clear on the arrangement there.

If you've been there 2 years+ you may decide to wait and see what they do, for example move this new person in (but then they have the problem of what to do with you...) or else bail out early.

If you are temporary staff, I'd definitely cut your losses. Very often people cling on for dear life (because they love the actual job) when unfortunately they ought to find a new opportunity. It's like clinging onto a bad love relationship, it's very demoralising and erodes self worth.

Sorry I mean if you have been permanently employed there 2+ years, no break of service. temp doesn't count.

My ex manager never really liked me, the clique was awful, they were favoured and the double standard really got to me. I loved the actual job and some of the staff were great but the poison, high turnover, nepotism and bullying made me quit.

I look back and wish I'd left similar jobs sooner. Life is precious and you never get the time back. I would recommend that you start looking for something happier.

Op I've been there twice.
It didn't end well.
The first time I didn't actually know anything until the new managed told me my old manager had slagged me off something rotten.

The second time I told the boss his employee that was so far up bosses arse it was unreal was stealing.
My tempery contract was ended there and then.

It's bullying at work at it's not fair but when it's the manager doing it your screwed.
My advice. Leave asap. It doesn't get better.
Good luck

Hi,I can totally sympathise with your situation, until 5 months ago I had stayed the same department for nearly 5 years, loved what I did but thought it was time for a change and try something else. I was approach ed internally for a position that I only had about 50% experience in, I did stress i did not know many of their new work techniques and systems but was assured i would get full training. 5 months later... I totally regret it.. I haven't had any formal training, have to constantly ask questions and then get receive curt answers if they be bothered to help then wonder why i dont get it correct the first time.. I see rolling of eyes, going off to lunch or making drinks in pairs, snide comments. I did catch them talking about me once and said if they have a problem i would rather discuss it together.. Some days when i leave the office i cry due to the relief the day is over...then i realise have to go through it again. I walk pass my old colleagues on another floor and realise how I miss them so much. I keep saying to myself this week will be better....i refuse to leave though, not giving in to bullies. I am not use to confrontation and it takes all my courage to confront them ...

Is your line manager supportive of you ladybird or are they as bad as the rest.

It's disturbing just how common this vicious behaviour is nowadays, but more so that it isn't nipped in the bud or dealt with proactively by management, even though most companies will maintain they have anti bullying / harrassment policies in place.

Going through very similar at the moment and it's toxic so can totally empathise. I also work for an employer who endlessly stresses adherement to anti-bullying/ anti- harassment policies yet I couldn't feel less supported or more isolated. I have taken the decision to find something else, move on and get on with my life!

Thank you for your replies. I'm sorry to hear some of these stories. Its sad that some people have the power to ruin an otherwise functional work environment.

I'm actually in a temp role in another department. The person below me getting the temp promotion has no experience at all in the job but because my manager likes them he's being promoted. My manager is actually leaving and is going to extraordinary lengths to advance his friend's career. There are a few of us at this level in the company and the general consensus is that the

Sorry posted too soon.
The temp promotion is an insult to those of us who have 10 or 20years experience that has got us in our jobs. New person has 2 years in a junior role and that's it.

Don't become bitter, it's favouritism and you are better off out of it, let them get on with it.

I'm hoping that new manager will be a breath of fresh air and that the nepotism will not be so bad. The attitude of senior management is appalling though. How can people sleep at night knowing they're bullies and liars and not doing their jobs or being professional?

I have come to the conclusion that length of service means little these days, managers i have worked wirh seem to promote who they feel they can work with and who will share their values, even if others see those values as very poor. Sometimes not getting promoted is a blessing in disguise, I am all for an easy life😏

Retired is right.

Hi daisychain01, no my line manager is one of them. I met up with a previous employee from the department who left last year, filled me in with lots of background which makes sense as to their behaviour but it does excuse it. One of them was off this week and the atmosphere was lovely.