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Is it wrong to want to leave new job after 5 weeks?

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SassyS89 · 27/12/2017 14:33

I started a new job 5 weeks ago and I've realised the job just isn't for me. The last couple weeks I have been feeling really miserable. I get on with everyone but I'm not really 'jelling' with anyone IYSWIM. My last job was at a large corporation and I was working there for just over a year. I enjoyed my job and made lots of friends and had a great team. I left that job mainly because I was on a rolling contract and needed something permanent as I have 2 young dc, and also the shifts wasn't very ideal but I still worked with it. My current job is for a smaller corporation with a much smaller team.

On paper my current job sounded great (permanent contract, ideal hours and more money) but I don't feel like I'm fitting in. I felt like my training was rushed and mentioned this to my manager who said she took it on board but said that she would expect someone with my experience to know the job in 4 weeks. One of the colleagues in my team was off with me because I was annoyed that she relieved me nearly 15 mins late and I had to rush to go and collect my dc and she did not communicate with me that she was going to be late. The day before xmas I was made to basically work a full shift whilst my manager and that same colleague worked a half day, which I felt was unfair as I had started earlier and had no lunch break as they did not let me know that I would be working on my own that day so I didn't bring any lunch in. Since I've started I've felt like I've been in the middle of so many wrong doings even though it has not been my fault. I was in tears at one point because I had had enough.

I know 5 weeks isn't really a long time to adjust to a new job but I'm absolutely dreading going back in next week. I've started looking for a new job as I feel no one should stay somewhere that they're not happy, but I want to make sure that I'm not being rash?

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Pumpkintopf · 27/12/2017 14:40

Hello op. It does rather sound like you've got off on the wrong foot. Could you chat to your manager again about how things are going?

angularmerkel · 27/12/2017 14:45

I could have written your post OP, I have been in my job a similar length of time - no training, nice people but chaotic and not for me. I'm. It going back after Christmas.

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SassyS89 · 27/12/2017 14:46

Thank you for replying Pumpkin. My manager said that she felt I was doing well but I just panic sometimes when I don't need to. I feel like I'm doing well also but the job just isn't for me so I'm losing interest very early on which obviously isn't good. I feel like every time I try and stay positive something happens (e.g. the points above) and it makes me not want to be there anymore.

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SassyS89 · 27/12/2017 14:50

Angular I'm sorry you're going through the same thing - it's not nice at all being in that environment. I really don't want to go back but my dc are 4 and 2 so I feel like I can't afford to leave without finding another job first.

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Pumpkintopf · 27/12/2017 15:22

If you've decided the job definitely isn't for you then probably time to start looking for a new one. If you're sure nothing can be done to make it a better fit for you. It shouldn't be too damaging on your cv assuming you've stayed longer at other jobs and have valid reasons you can give at interview as to why you left.

In fairness to your manager though, I'd still suggest talking to her about why you're unhappy as if she doesn't know, she can't resolve the situation.

daisychain01 · 27/12/2017 16:31

I think you may need to accept that 'rough and tumble' is part of being in the workplace, OP. None of the things you've listened are earth shatteringly awful, so perhaps a bit of perspective and workplace resilience is needed?

If you really hate the job and there's no going back, then obviously whatever anyone on the thread may suggest isn't going to help you, you need to get your CV out there and change jobs.

But I'd caution you from jumping too hastily before you've exhausted avenues such as seeking some support from your manager, and improving your communication with colleagues - could your situation with the colleague have been averted by making it very clear before they went off on their break that you had to leave by latest 4pm (for ex) to collect your DC.

Relationships and trust at work often take time and patience, just be certain you don't move jobs only to find equally frustrating things happen elsewhere - and they will, I can assure you!

daisychain01 · 27/12/2017 16:32

Sorry listed

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SassyS89 · 27/12/2017 16:59

Thank you for your reply daisy. I understand that 'rough and tumble' is part of being in a workplace but one of my issues are that I cannot work in a place with lack of communication. Regarding the issues above, no there are not shatteringly awful but imo it should not have happened in the first place. For the most part I work a fixed shift so my colleague knew what time I finished as she had to relieve me - like I said, had she communicated with me I would not have been as annoyed. There are other reasons why I am not happy not just because of the reasons mentioned. Although I have made my decision, what I wanted from my OP was to see if it was wrong to want to leave after 5 weeks and if I was making a rash decision.

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Ijustlovefood · 27/12/2017 17:12

I feel for you as I've been there. If you are working more than 7 hours in a day you need a lunch break.

Ijustlovefood · 27/12/2017 17:13

Also nobody knows their job fully in 4 weeks!

jay95 · 27/12/2017 17:17

"I felt like my training was rushed and mentioned this to my manager who said she took it on board but said that she would expect someone with my experience to know the job in 4 weeks."

Hmm, would she?. What's the subtext there then?

Just get something else then jump.

hevonbu · 27/12/2017 17:18

Why don't you call your old workplace and see if something can be arranged?

Katescurios · 27/12/2017 17:25

I think you should give it 3 months. Big corporation to small company is going to be a massive change and there are pros and cons to each.

Big companies tend to have well tested training programmes with dedicated training staff, small companies often take a more side by side learn oin the job approach.

Big companies have workforce management systems and resource managers, small companies manage the staffing/rotas more informally which can seem more haphazard at first but can also lead to a more flexible environment.

If after 3 months you don't feel its right for you start looking for other roles.

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SassyS89 · 27/12/2017 18:54

Thank you for your replies. As much as I enjoyed working at my last place I wouldn't go back if they didn't have anything permanent or at least a 12 month contract, which they don't unfortunately. My gut is just telling me not to stay. I'm trying to stay positive but right now it's hard to find any positives.

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Ijustlovefood · 27/12/2017 18:59

Sometimes you just know when something isn't right for you. Do you have a dp or dh? Support?

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SassyS89 · 27/12/2017 19:25

No dp or dh or that much support in general. My children's father is around but we are no longer together, so I pretty much do most things on my own. My mother is severely partially sighted (80% of her sight is gone) and suffers from acute arthritis so recently had to stop working indefinitely. I very rarely ask her to look after the kids as I feel it would be too much for her.

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Ijustlovefood · 28/12/2017 08:05

I'm sorry to hear that. I would just try look for another job and leave as soon as you can if you really feel it's not right for you.

angularmerkel · 28/12/2017 08:11

How about signing on to a temp agency? That's my plan. I have temped for a short while previously and really enjoyed it.

EBearhug · 28/12/2017 15:52

Just before Christmas is often an odd time at work. I'd give it a bit longer, while working on my CV and seeing what else is around.

daisychain01 · 28/12/2017 19:08

You have a lot of challenges OP so wanting to be happy and settled in your job is not wrong. You spend a lot of time there! Your current company is obviously not right for you.

Life's too short, I'd get your CV out there and get something new in 2018!

IiiitsChriiistmas · 28/12/2017 19:43

These things wouldn't bother me personally as I'm a big one for taking ownership of my role/training etc and although it's important to have a strong team dynamic I'm there to work so wouldn't be too disappointed not to make great friends

But it shows we're all different and if you are unhappy life is too short so find something that's a better fit. We spend loads of time at work so it's awful if you hate it! Shouldn't look too bad on your CV but try to get another role lined up first

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SassyS89 · 28/12/2017 21:02

I've decided to look for something else but I won't leave until I have something else lined up (unless I don't my probation that is). I don't think small companies are suited for me as I felt a similar way at another small company I was working for previously. Like others have mentioned, I will be spending most of my time at work and life is too short to stay in a place where you're miserable.

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GreenTulips · 28/12/2017 21:08

I knew after the first well I wouldn't hack the job, was bloody miserable. Ended up walking out.

Life's too short, if you know you know

BikeRunSki · 28/12/2017 21:14

I’d be inclined to give it s second chance. The month before Christmas is nut representative of how a business works. Even if not seasonal work, parties, end of year deadlines, staff annual leave, illness etc wil all disrupt normal routine etc.

daffodil85 · 28/12/2017 21:16

I'm in the same position, feel like I don't fit in, didn't get much training to the point of having a meltdown & wanted to leave.

The lack of communication is unbelievable and I struggle to understand why!

I'm hoping it'll be better after Christmas.

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