How polite is it to drop a huge FAT hint about a leaving present??

[PeachesMcLean]

I leave my job shortly after being here for many years. They always get leaving presents and I don't think I'm being too presumptuous in assuming that I'll be getting one too. Now, I suspect I'm not the easiest person to buy for and I've seen something I'd love - we work at a visitor attraction with one of those gift shops. It sells the most gorgeous ceramic stuff, made locally, and one of the vases is on sale - plus with our staff discount it would be very affordable and within the usual amount spent on leaving gifts. It's one of those things you would never buy for yourself so it would be really special to have, and a good reminder of the place.

Can I hint? If so, how? I like to think I'd be doing them a favour by doing so... Or is it rude? What do you think?

You could say something like "I'm very tempted to buy myself this vase before I lose my staff discount, perhaps I'll do it on my way out on my last day." It's a hint disguised as a statement of intent.

I like that bran, somehow I'd need to get a colleague along to the shop to point out the one, and I'm not very good at subtle hints so part of me is tempted to say to the one person I'm closest to "Look, how about this..." (She's well used to me being a bit blunt!) but it just feels so cheeky and even I am put off by that!

I think you could just drop the hint, saying that there is a lovely vase that you've admired for a while that you might buy. Then hopefully one of colleagues will find an excuse to go along to the shop with you.

Just nick it?

are you leaving permanently? we are far too polite about these things I think. Do you know who is buying for you? I would take them to one side and say how much you'd appreciate the vase and how it would leave you with lasting memories of the place. I'd be delighted if I was buying a leaving gift and someone told me what they wanted (as long as it was within budget!).

Fair point .. it is normally a right kerfuffle to chose a leaving gift for someone.

I'd find out whose job it is to buy it, and offer to make up the difference of any collection etc. (there's no way they'll take you up on it but offer anyway!)

And as I say, I have a reputation for being picky. So, in that case, I'm doing them a favour and will have a word with friend who's probably got the job when she's in tomorrow. Thanks all, I just needed to check no one threw their hands up in horror!

I would take the direct approach

Probably cover it in 100 post-it notes saying I WOULD LIKE THIS AS MY LEAVING PRESENT LOVE MORNINGPAPER

Not rude at all. Buying leaving presents is a nightmare and I am sure your colleagues would be very pleased to know that what they are giving you is just what you want! Just tell your closest colleague and I am sure she will do the rest.