I hate hate hate my new job

[DumbleDee]

Haven't been happy in my career for a while. Have moved jobs 3 times in 4 years (one of which was interim) and this 3rd job I've been in 2 months.

It's a well paid senior role which adds to the guilt about hating it.

I'm nearly 50. Am having a sense of dread constantly about being stuck doing something I hate until I retire or die! The Company is madly political and I'm getting caught in the crossfire daily between my direct line manager and dotted line line manager who are constantly at war.

How do I escape. I'm terrified of leaving with no job to go to I could probably manage 3 months on my savings before struggling. I'm also terrified of staying and the daily horror. My anxiety is wild at the moment.

Help.

How could I resign with a legitimate reason that wouldn't impact my future job hunting?

A friend of mine was completely miserable in her job/career, but she stuck at it for years because 'the money is amazing'. But doing something she hated every day was hurting her emotionally, mentally, socially, she was just miserable despite the money.

She ended up leaving her job and re-training to be a florist. She's making FAR less money, but she now loves what she does and she looks forward to going to work each day and being in a role that's 'creative and fun'.

I'm just saying, life's too short to be miserable. Maybe take some time to look at your options. What do you enjoy doing? If you could do another career what might that be? Could you turn a hobby into a career?

If you can't leave your job, maybe book some time off. Plan a holiday. Start a new hobby. Do volunteering. Find something you can look forward to doing after you get off work.

Thank you x

I need to have a big think over Xmas. It's like deep inside I know I need to get out but scared to make the jump x

It's understandably scary, the uncertainty of giving up a 'good' job for the unknown. There's no guarantees BUT if you're truly miserable, it's worth looking at your options. You don't want to wait another 10, 20, 30 years and be full of regrets.

If you think you might be interested in another career or hobby, then maybe take 'baby steps' towards it. Say for example you're interested in becoming a caterer, then start cooking for friends, host dinner parties at the weekend, ask for feedback, take a course in food hygiene in the evenings, offer to cater a friend's birthday at cost just to get a feel for the role before taking the plunge, etc.

I know it might seem daunting, changing careers and maybe you have no idea what you want to do. If that's the case, I would suggest picking up (or go online) a local adult college class schedule and see if anything takes your fancy. It might give you an idea of something you might be interested in pursing.

Look at the bright side, the world is your oyster! You can do anything you want, be anything you want! It might take a little time, but you'll get there in the end.

I wish you luck!

Thank you. I have a plan. I've found a course I can do that will either enhance my professional qualification and or allow me to set up on my own.

Xx