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Daughter sacked by x boyfriends mom.

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BITCAT · 25/11/2017 19:11

Shes only 16 and has been sacked with no notice, for deleting her and her husband of facebook.
And she says my daughter is childish, she did it to stop any problems and the woman is so petty. I'm so angry but what can i do?

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BatteredBreadedOrSouthernFried · 25/11/2017 19:13

what can i do?

Be happy your daughter is away from petty people and can go get a job where there is no atmosphere or emotional connections.

highinthesky · 25/11/2017 19:14

Probably nothing, unless you have proof it was unfair dismissal on the grounds of gender, age, disability, religion or sexuality.

Best to chalk it up to experience. It might even be worth considering whether there’s a grain of truth in what the employer’s feedback?

crisscrosscranky · 25/11/2017 19:38

Was she paid cash? If so, really you can do nothing.

If she's PAYE and all is legit you could try to argue that she should have been given one weeks' statutory notice but that's the extent of it.

If she's an apprentice you need to speak to her college.

BITCAT · 25/11/2017 21:47

Shes not at all immature in fact for someone who is only just 16 in oct..shes very level headed and mature. Even he tutors at college say she is a delight to teach and the most mature 16 year old they've ever had.
She was paid though the bank and fully on the books.
She sacked her via text stating ahe had sacked her for deleting her husband from facebook, now i consider that to be childish. Shes very upset over the split, thet had been together 2 years and he has been lying to her and seeing other girls, now this has happened.
I feel powerless, i keep saying that another job will come up and shes done everything she can to help her chances and ive said she will be ok and that she just needs time but its really hard not going and shouting and this fully grown bully. His mother and sister have been bullying her for months calling her fat etc and looking down on her for not having as much money as them.
She plans to go to uni to train as a teacher and they've always mocked her saying she won't or shes unrealistic. Sorry its all muddled and long, I'm just so angry and i don't want to do something i may regret.

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BatteredBreadedOrSouthernFried · 25/11/2017 22:51

His mother and sister have been bullying her for months calling her fat etc and looking down on her for not having as much money as them.

So why on earth would you want her to stay working for them!?

Xeneth88 · 25/11/2017 22:56

Let it go. It's for the best. She has no legal standing if she has been there for less than 2 years and really it's nothing to do with you. She was the employee not you. You need to keep out of her employment issues.

It's the best situation all round, no one wants their kids ex working for them or wants to work for the exes parent. You all need to let it be and move on. She'll find another job. Massive storm in a teacup.

BITCAT · 25/11/2017 23:56

I dont want her to keep working there at all. I just think the way she did it was unprofessional and underhand and feel some notice would have been nice.
But we will be there for her and she will get another job.
I don't normally involve myself with my childrens work or relationships but she is still 16 and still doing her exams..so I'm going to do everything i can to help her and if i think she has been unfairly treated then i will question it as she hasnt much experience in the working world and some companies use this inexperience to treat youngsters unfairly and get away with it.

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BatteredBreadedOrSouthernFried · 25/11/2017 23:59

if i think she has been unfairly treated then i will question it

But you didn’t question it when she was being bullied for months and called fat by her employer?

NeverTwerkNaked · 26/11/2017 00:00

Sounds like she is best off out of there!

BITCAT · 26/11/2017 00:06

I did question it and i had words with his sister over it too. There just not nice people. I know shes better off out of it.
I guess I'm just shocked at how unprofessional, childish and nasty these supposed adults are.
She has a massive extended family around her to get her through, i think its made her much less trusting of anyone

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BatteredBreadedOrSouthernFried · 26/11/2017 00:27

There are assholes in all sorts of scenarios. She can use this to fine tune her asshole radar. They sound like a bunch of pricks. This is the best thing that could have happened. They’ve done her a favour. Celebrate that she is away from them and help her get another job. This is a good thing. Really.

KickingCuh · 26/11/2017 00:42

So she was working in the family business of her boyfriend and they split on bad terms, the family took his side (well, duh!) there may or may not have been words said.
Leave well alone and try to make your daughter see that she’s dodged a bullet.

GertrudeCB · 26/11/2017 12:38

I have 2 now adult DC so I understand how hard it is when you see them unfairly treated , by all means rant away on here but I agree with the pp's that she is better off away from them. Sending best wishes that she finds something else soon Flowers

BITCAT · 26/11/2017 14:47

Thanks for all your comments. And yes i am glad she is away from them but im sad for my daughter. Doing my best to try keep her spirits up. Taking her to see bad moms xmas and she has a concert next thurs, and me and her stepdad have invited her to come with us and some other family members to an amateur wrestling event, which is fun and she gets to see nice looking men in pants lol. Hoping it will cheer her up. Just trying to help keep her busy and help her get another part time job, she loves having her own money and earning it. She doesnt see it now but i know it will get better, she didnt eat for 3 days.
I can't see her brother being as nice though if he sees her x, shes been treated very badly mentally and physically abused.
He is very angry.

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BITCAT · 26/11/2017 14:48

He didnt want her to go out with him in the first place because of the 2 year age gap.

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