My husband doesn't live in the UK because he works from Dubai and we see him whenever his schedule or leave allows it. He travels around the world a lot for work.
We decided to live in different countries for our DCs benefit. DS is almost finished school and will be starting uni here soon, DD is in Year 10.
DH has a course coming up next year that is very stressful and demanding. He has always gone on about how he will have to stay in a hotel for the duration of the course so that he can focus in peace and quiet. (Not that he lifts a finger around the house!) Then the opportunity came up for us to move and hey presto, he has a very quiet house to cope in. (Although he has told me he's noticed I'm gone because nothing gets cleaned up after him!)
Anyway, I've now been offered an amazing job, but have had to turn it down. Why? Well because I first have an 18 week course ahead of me. The training college is a 2 hour drive away. So my day would be leave home at 6:30am, course 8:30am - 4:30pm, drive 2 hours home again and get 2-3 hours studying done a night.
How would I as a single parent manage to run this household and take care of my kids and our dog, with a schedule that looks like that? When and IF I do pass the course (equally stressful and demanding as DHs) then the job is to work an hour or so away with slightly better hours.
I have no family here or friends I could lean on. In my opinion I'll be taking on way more than I can handle. This is the 2nd move I've done at my DHs deciding (gave up a fabulous career in home country to look after family) and over the years have done all the moves on my own.
He hasn't even been here to help. We've seen him twice (i.e.: 2 night-stops) in the 6 weeks we've been here. I'm exhausted and don't want to whine about what a struggle it's all been, but how does he expect me to cope?
Honestly, am I missing the plot? There are other job opportunities I'm looking at with much better hours.
DH is livid at me.