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Question for litigators

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ladamanera · 21/09/2017 00:15

Do other lawyers feel a crippling dread deep in their stomach when another adversarial pre-court letter light on facts and heavy on purple prose and accusations from the other side, hits the inbox? Or are you used to it? Or even, look forward to it? I'm not a litigator usually, so I'm not used to it.
But for four years I have been helping my dad prepare for a court case against his ex-business partner who is a multimillionaire narcissist (my dad does not have any money). Every week forfour years, in drops another horrible email, designed presumably to leave muddying paper trails that confuse the judge (we think he's been stealig money, my dad accused him of it and so he's brought an action against my dad accusing my dad of manipulating the accounts by denying knowlege of transactions that were agreed verbally, in a nutshell).

its all just so horrible. I know I sound like a wuss. But such pointless positioning, acrid brinksmanship and grim bravado, wastig client money and everyone's real and emotional energy.

It's hung over my head for years. Theyve refused mediation but following a court order theyve agreed it and it finally happens in three months time. I doubt theyll turn up. This guy wants to see my dad die from the stress, hes got money to burn, he can keep going out of sheer vindictiveness and because its a distraction from what he has done.

It really makes me question my profession and see why it has such a bad name.

I cant wait to get out of this. The stress pf what this is doing to my family is making my hair fall out.

Rant over.

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Shakey15000 · 21/09/2017 16:57

Rant away. I'm afraid I can't answer your question but I can sympathise. Currently almost four years into a litigation and (at the other end of the scale) are inbox and letterbox watching. It's agony. Doesn't help knowing there's probably at least another year to go. Sigh!

Hope it all works out for your Dad Flowers

ladamanera · 21/09/2017 23:51

Thanks Shakey. My first mumsnet bouquet! I am sorry to hear about your litigation, too. Awful isnt it. The system has lost its way- principles and equity and CPR reduced to litigating by correspondence and all sorts of untruths and bluster and nastiness designed merely to leave false papertrails and unsettle the other side, bullying and wilful misinterpretations of statute and inflated cosrs- really wicked stuff- Not the Rule of Law as I believe in. To be stuck in the whirlpool of it, so helplessly- even when you are qualified to know how to argue - its a real eyeopener.

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