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Is my boss going to far?!

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REB29111995 · 11/09/2017 22:00

I am currently a student doing a diploma in horse care and my boss is making me rather uncomfortable.

It first started a few weeks ago when I was riding one of their horses, he kept making me stop and being rather hands on (I'm used to people repositioning my legs whilst riding with no stirrups) but not them stroking my leg afterwards or stroking my back after they have got me to sit up straighter. I have 1 hour private riding lessons with him every week and each lesson takes away my stirrups and repositions my legs, strokes them and then strokes my back. Other students live on site (one was complaining about a lady she shared a caravan with because she snores loudly) after a long conversation and it was made aware that I sleep walk, my boss said he would 'tie me to the bed with bailing twine, leave my legs kicking'. A friend at work said she would untie my in the morning, (trying to put an end to the awkward atmosphere) to which my boss replied 'no you won't, I would untie. I need to make sure she gets to work in the morning' and winked at me.

One lesson I was in with a friend (she's a beginner and also a student) he told her when she does rising trot she needs to pretend she has a willy and she needs to thrust her hips like it's pointing at the sky. If she didn't do it, he would go buy her a dildo and strap it to her. He then looked at me and said that I know what a willy sticking up looks like as I have a son. Then took my stirrups and done all touching and told to thrust my hips forward like I'm riding it again.

I don't know whether this is sexual harassment or not but it is making me rather uncomfortable. Any help?!?!

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sarahbanshee · 11/09/2017 22:12

Dear God. Yes, this is going too far. It is sexual harassment and totally unacceptable.

REB29111995 · 12/09/2017 20:30

What do I do? He runs the business with his wife and they have an adopted daughter together 😕 I don'the want to be the one to cause friction between them.

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redexpat · 12/09/2017 20:40

You havent caused the problem. He has by behaving inappropriately. You need to say dont touch me like that. Stop touching me like that. Can you have lessons from someone else?

sarahbanshee · 12/09/2017 22:01

Look him in the eye and say clearly "don't do that. Don't touch me." It will need you to be brave but he is a coward and a sleaze and if you face up to him he will probably slink away. He may well say "it's only a joke" or "lighten up" - you just keep saying "don't do that". Practise until you can say it nice and clearly. I'm so sorry you have to do this.

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