Called a silly cow and hung up on

[roselover11]

What the hell do I do ?!

I claim working tax and housing benefits
I've just started a job 3 wks ago which seemed great
Lovely boss
Good money
Part time fitting around my little one
Today I was asked to book some meetings for her and I to attend to
So I did...one email just came through so as it's after hours ( I finished at 3) I called her
She sounded fuming saying don't i know London ? I'm not from London and I did use maps but the client I arranged to see I shouldn't have done
Even though she asked me to call him

The company has just started and is disorganised so I'm trying my best as there's no direction
Anyway she told me I must sort this tonight and call the client and email another client etc I said I can't really as I'm a single mum I'm just collecting my lo, doing her dinner, bath etc
Which she said she was ok with
She then asked me a few more times so I said can I have some direction and go through with it tomorrow
I tried my best to stay calm even though she was shouting calling me a silly cow so it was hard not to react! She then said ' sort your kid out and I'll do it then ' and hung up
I'm so upset
I feel I can't go in tomorrow
But I have to
I can't afford to just leave a job as I know I won't get my benefits
But I'm so angry and upset I just don't know what to do ?
Thanks for reading xx

What a nasty woman. Leave asap!

But I don't know how I will survive
I can't just leave and it's so hard getting a job these days

Keep looking - you got this one you'll get another - at least it'll be character building. & if she calls you names again tell her that's not acceptable - I can't imagine her clients would be impressed.

I'd advise looking at other job vacancies while you're still in this job or would you consider joining an employment agency?
It's very difficult to find work, particularly to fit around children. You have my sympathy.

Your other option is to try and take control of the situation at work. Insist that you have set hours, don't work in your free time and demand clear instructions from your boss on your tasks, insisting that you can double check details with her if you're unsure. If she wants to add to your responsibilities or work load, then you need to sit down with her and work out a new contract.
I'd also mention that you didn't appreciate her verbal abuse and you found it unprofessional.

Think that's what I need to do
I'm going to go in tomorrow even though I feel sick to my stomach and just want to stay away but I can't
I will ask for a chat and tell her I want my old role I applied for
Also talk to her about her manner
Then if she tells me to F off which I think she will I can't do anymore
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I think they've stitched you up, you wanted admin they changed it to sales (more difficult), they expect you to work outside of hours, you have to use your own phone, you are being verbally abused.
Find yourself a new job quickly OP.

Totally agree
I went in today, boss was vile and just talked at me, telling me I had to go to London tomorrow?!
so I handed my notice in
She ripped it up, said not to be so silly, said I was making a huge mistake
Said I would work my notice and wouldn't leave them in the lurch
2hrs later she came in apologised and said am I sure I want to leave I said yes as I won't be treated like that as I had made up my mind so she said she would pay me until next week and I could go then - so I did
I have an interview tomorrow for another job so fingers crossed
Scary thought to have no job but I feel so much better and don't have a big knot in my tummy x

Well done!

I am so sick of reading about bosses like this. Good for you, maybe next time she'll think twice about how she talks to her staff but I doubt it.

Well done - she was seeing how far she could push you. You've stood your ground, and you will get a better job than this.

Well done OP for standing up for yourself. Live and learn, and you will def learn from this not to let anyone treat you like crap. Good luck with your interview! Have a look at temping agencies in the meantime, you can always get a few days or weeks here and there and gain more experience into the bargain

She might have a nice side but she's demanding & will get more demanding i think. Could you reverse the contract as its so early? Get some advice from jcp or CAB about it? Under these circumstances wouldn't it be reasonable to revoke your role?
The way she spoke to you is considered abusive and bullish & i think you know it will happen again. I would find a way out.

Oh ok just read your last post. Good for you. Much luck for the future. No one deserves to be treated that way. Be reassured you made the right decision

It's nice to know I've made the right decision
But scary I don't have a job
Yes the ' interview ' today is through an agency but the job she has is ideal for me. She said after she has seen she today she can put me forward for it plus it's a temp to perm so it may even work out if I do get it and if not I'm still earning so I thinking temping will be perfect for me at the moment anyway
Rang benefits and they have been great and supportive of the tempting roles so really hope I get this role
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If not I've been applying like made since yesterday updated my cv so will be doing the same all day today x

Good for you! The boss sounds horrendous, there is no way that job would have worked out. Sounds like better things are in the pipeline for you.

Well done rose. I hope your awful experience hasn't knocked your confidence. Your boss sounded like a bully to be honest and a nightmare to work with, not your fault at all.

I think if you're asked why you left by a future employer you can explain that your boss didn't stick to your contracted hours and changed the job role, forcing you to leave. It shouldn't reflect badly on you at all.

Good luck today.

She sounds pretty unprofessional. Not directly relevant, but it really is not sensible to keep a "bitches and bastards" file as clients obviously have a right to data relating to them; it would leave the company vulnerable to bad publicity or defamation proceedings.

I would say that you are both at fault here. You clearly have made your expectations clear to one another and you are both getting too emotional. You need to sit down and discuss things like working hours, contact outside of hours etc. You also need to point out your lack of experience and ask her for more help. Probably a good idea to start looking for another job too.

Thanks guys

Ttbb it's a bit late for that
Course she is going to be emotional it's her company
Of course I am it's my job and life and way to provide to live
No offence but I hate it when people say don't let emotions get in the way
I mean seriously in this situation how can you not ? When it's NOT personal fine, but this clearly was. I see that now I'm out of it. would you tolerate your new boss shouting calling you a silly cow? I doubt you would
And we DID so all that in the interview
I wouldn't have taken it otherwise
But yes will learn from this

I have a telephone interview for the job I'm seeing the agency about today
Just got the call so I'm really excited

And I know the bitches and bastards file?! To be fair it was a printed label in a note book think she was trying to have a laugh but I've never known anyone to do that! Def better off out

Ilostitinthe90s

Thank you I was wondering about what to say if new employers ask
Especially as this job I have a telephone interview for is for the same job title as my last

That's an excellent response thank you x

I think you've done the right thing OP this woman would have made your life hell. Tell the new company that the responsibilities of the last job were not as advertised and it wasn't a good fit for your skills and you didn't think you could do the role justice. Stress the ways that the job you're interviewing for now does match your skills.

This is the worst sort of manager, and also a very bad businessperson. She will not last long by bullying, being disorganised, changing her mind and cocking things up. The "business" is completely dysfunctional and you can never succeed in such a "job."

Don't worry about quitting such a pretend job!

"it really is not sensible to keep a "bitches and bastards" file as clients obviously have a right to data relating to them;"

No, they don't. Business to business transactions are not part of the Data Protection Act (nor the new GDPR).
DPA relates to 'personal data' only, not business information.