Thank you. Yes, after thinking over night I don't think I can rely on Union advice so will speak to a proper lawyer. Frustrating really as I thought that was what I was paying then for. :/
We've already used up the mortgage lawyer hours! The guy there was nice though so we'll see if we can go back.
Meanwhile I will have a think about how to word an email to work saying I'm not committing to anything at this moment until I get some legal advice.
I think the problem I have is that I WANT to leave. I'm worried that if I kick up a fuss they'll decide that they don't actually have a leg to stand on and will suddenly find me another job there. I really, really don't want that.
Yes, it is my career that I worked hard for and I'm very unlilely to find another role with that pay or hours that suit us so well. But I've also completely lost my confidence. They've made me believe that I am incapable of the role which I've been doing in various companies for over 20 years with no previous issues. They've destroyed that for me. I don't want to do it anymore. The project I was working on was stopped because of funding (Brexit!) but I am still really scared that it was because of me.
I was texted this morning to say the other person who was thinking about putting in a bullying claim walked out last night. She's not due in until next week so no one knows if she's coming back. I'm assuming she won't. I suspect she'll be submitting a grievance now. I want my stuff signed and sealed before anything starts with her just in case they realise they need to tread carefully with both of us and revoke anything they've said. While I'm on leave I'm still employed and no one has signed anything to confirm I have left and during the notice of redundancy period they can find me another job.
If they do make me stay, I'll have to leave for my own sanity anyway. Although union say I have an ET case I don't have the energy for it and I don't want everything dragged out. Obviously I would need to and have nothing to lose.
Getting rid of me through redundancy/settlement agreement or whatver, suits me. As long as I get my redundancy pay and it doesn't impact on my reference or future jobs I don't care tbh. Tax wise, I don't earn enough to be affected either way.
So I don't know what can be gained by making a fuss and making them decide what it is that they are doing?
On the plus side, my son's child minder has had a family emergency so being off for a week has worked out well.