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Tried handing in my notice. Employer putting in pressure and I feel stressed and overwhelmed.

You're not their slave. Give the correct amount of notice as outlined in your contract. If no contract see guidance here:

www.gov.uk/handing-in-your-notice/giving-notice

When the notice is up, stop going to work. They can't refuse it, they can't make you work there.

Have you put it in writing to your boss? In what way is your employer putting pressure on you?

Stand firm. If you want to leave then hand in your notice and don't let them try and persude you otherwise. They can't force you to stay.

Hand in your letter/email and then when your notice period is up, you leave. Ignore any comments from your employer, they can't stop you leaving and if they are being unpleasant about you leaving, it sounds like leaving is a good thing.

If they're really pressuring you then I would be considering walking out there and then citing constructive dismissal....

Have put it in writing. Told them my leave date. Have checked with acas. Also reminded them of MH issues I have regarding long term depression and anxiety. Am also single parent of 3 kids (eldest is an aspie) and this is in part, their response (only been there 3 months). I have not signed a contract although I have, in the past 2 weeks, finally seen one. I have spoken to acas and have given 4 weeks when only 1 week us required. I know I'm not in the wrong, but how would you work a diplomatic but firm reply (this has been going back and forth for two weeks and my anxiety levels are through the roof?). Please. Not sleeping due to the stress. Need objective opinions.

This was their answer when I stipulated I was sticking to my 4 weeks notice and 25th July would be my last day:

"Your resignation is a reflection on me also as I made a very strong recommendation when we recruited you"

If I do consider your resignation, the issue is the short time frame you have given me - 25th of July is around the corner and I will not be able to get an appropriate replacement that soon - So at a minimum, I would need maybe another Month from you"

I've paraphrased to avoid identifying but I'm totally stressed. I feel controlled, corner and harassed.

Sorry - not sure if I've cocked up but I'm the OP? It's showing diff names?

"No I can't do that. I am required to give you 1 week's notice and I have given you 4. I won't be staying any longer than that."

Their recruitment problems aren't yours.

I wouldn't engage with them on it. I would respond ' I refer to my letter of x date in which I gave 4 weeks notice of my leaving the company. ACAS have confirmed that I am only required to give you one weeks notice. However I confirm I will leave on the date I originally stated and therefore 25 July will be my last day.'

If you require more notice, I suggest you ask for it when you recruit my replacement. Your lack of planing is not my issue.

Thankyou. I know I'm not wrong but I work remotely and sometimes it's really easy to second-guess yourself.

This is my draft response:

According to employment law, you do not have to 'accept' my resignation.

I have repeatedly stated that I don't feel I am the right fit for the role for numerous reasons, and I have therefore tendered my resignation so that I am not in a position to disappoint either myself or you as my employer.
I am sympathetic to your predicament as an employer, having been in your situation myself, but what I must make clear, is that it is absolutely NOT ok to make contractual changes to an employee's terms of employment without mutual agreement.

I have stated that the job is affecting my mental health and my family dynamic - a problem I drew your attention to at the very beginning of our dialogue.

I do not agree with your proposed changes to my notice period. I have given 4 weeks' notice which is not only in keeping with acas regulations but is over and above statutory requirements.

One of the reasons I am feeling so stressed and overwhelmed is your unremitting inability to accept my decision.

I have given the role a three month trial and have come to the decision that it is not the right fit for me. Were the boot on the other foot, and, as per the contract I have been sent, you wanted to terminate my employment, would my pleas of 'but I don't have another job yet' be any more valid? No. I appreciate your efforts to keep me, and I'm appreciative of your faith in me but for any kind of relationship to work, BOTH parties must believe in it.

Therefore, as previously stated, my last day will be 25th July. I will continue to discharge my duties to the standard you have come to expect until then, upon which I will look forward to receiving due recompense for all hours and expenses charged.

Kind regards

Mnhq please delete as I forgot to change names!

hi OP - i have reported your post for you to MNTowers - they should alter it for you

Hi OP, we've removed the names from your post. If you'd like us to remove the post altogether, just report it to us and we'll do that.

Don't get drawn into a discussion about it as that will only cause you further stress. Reply "As previously stated, my last day will be 25th July." and just repeat as much as necessary.

Thankyou - really appreciate your comments. Not going to reply tonight as I've had a couple of glasses of wine and am trying not to 'knee jerk'! X

I think your draft response is much too long. You don't need to go into any reasons as to why you are resigning. Just keep it very short and factual regard your leaving date. The more you say back, the more it gives them to comment on and to keep the dialogue going which isn't helpful to you.

What thatstoast suggested is perfect, no discussions, no reasons or explanations, that one sentence is all that's required. Just keep replying with that yo every single piece of correspondence.

I would just say something a bit longer than toast's version:

I appreciate your faith in me, but the role is not working for me. Legally, I am required to give a week's notice. I have given you four. Therefore, as I have previously stated, my last day will be x.

If you get any more rubbish about "accepting" your resignation, ignore.

Done! Thanks for your wise words x

Just wanted to say Thankyou for your advice. Have done what you advised and it has brought the matter to a close. Thanks again x