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Stress and welfare visits

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user1471508896 · 04/07/2017 10:02

I've been having a tough time in work combined with issues with my manager for a while which ultimately lead to me breaking down in tears in the office yesterday (surprised it hadn't happened sooner). I'm usually someone who is quite practical about things but this time everything is just too much for me to cope with.

I managed to get an appointment with doctor last night who has signed me off for two weeks under "stress and anxiety". I've called in sick this morning and had a call back from my manager saying she will be doing a welfare visit within the week either with me in the office or at my home.

My issue is I don't think I am in the right place at the moment to have this meeting, any mention of work and I'm back in tears/palpitations. The doctor advised to take at least one week trying not to think about work and then when I feel ready to start slowly looking at practical ways to fix the problems.

So I need to understand:

  • can they insist on a meeting if I'm signed off?
  • if I decline can they still turn up? It wasn't described as if I had a choice in the matter

Has anyone been through similar, it seems excessive to want to come out in the first week off, my intention is to get myself together as soon as I can and get back to work. I don't plan or want to be off on long term sickness.

OP posts:
daisychain01 · 05/07/2017 04:28

I'd give your manager the clear understanding that you want to get back to work at the earliest opportunity. That's your starting point.

Say you would appreciate being given the week as complete time away, as advised by your GP. Offer to hold the meeting in the office on the following Monday. See what your manager says.

rumred · 11/07/2017 19:28

Are you in a union? It's completely unreasonable of your manager to demand a meeting in this timescale. You need time to recover.

Look after yourself and resist her demands

rumred · 11/07/2017 19:30

And check your workplaces sickness absence policy re meetings. Many specify management oversight of sickness in terms of how regularly employees should be seen

FoofFighter · 11/07/2017 19:32

I called ACAS for advice in similar situation, suggest you give them a call.

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