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Should I go back to work?

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taramac · 19/03/2007 11:56

I am currently on unpaid maternity leave (dd born last May)and am due back next week.

I hate the job - is only part time so have to go in on a weekend for few hours - either sat afternoon or sunday morning or afternoon so it really eats into family time - have 2 ds's as well as dd.

I used to be able to go in one evening but with dps new working hours thats not possible.

The thing is the money is quite good in relation to how many hours I work (not loads of money at all but a lot for the hours I do iykwim).

I used to get quite stressed going in b4 I went on mat leave and contemplated leaving.

I feel its ridiculous to turn down apparently 'easy money' but just feel panicked at thought of going back.

Am I juat a lazy cow who should just get on with it or should I just pack it in?

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BizzyDint · 19/03/2007 11:59

you don't sound like you want to go back.

would you have to pay back any maternity pay if you didn't go back?

and do you need the money if you do go back? or is it more of a 'you time' thing? if it's for something for you to do then maybe look for another job?

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taramac · 19/03/2007 12:06

I wouldnt have to pay back any money at all I just feel a bit daft turning down money which whilst we arent desperate would be helpful.

AAAgh Wish I could just make my mind up.

I am quite happy not working for the time being tbh - have hands full with 3 rascals.

Its not just the family time I suppose and not enjoying the job - the office is chaotic and because I work outside normal hours this can make my job more stressful.

I wish someone would make my mind up for me!

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BizzyDint · 19/03/2007 12:08

you haven't said one good thing about going back..other than the money, but you don't REALLY need the money do you? i suppose if you went back it would be nice to have the extra cash but you can live without it and you'd probably be happier. no? if you did really need the money you probably wouldn't be questioning it. maybe just leave it, and look for something with better hours doing something less stressful.

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taramac · 19/03/2007 12:13

Isnt it awful to turn down the money though?

I feel really bad when I know other people are struggling and I know I have in the past.

Shouldnt I go back back JUST for the money?

Really appreciate you replying btw. My head is a tis and my 2 bf's are going through far more serious stuff than this at the mo and my dp says its up to me!

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BizzyDint · 19/03/2007 12:19

i personally would not go back to a job i did not like for money i did not really need. it's not like you're turning the money down, you don't need it, and there will be someone elese out there who can have your job. and it sounds like your dh doesn't think you need the money either. all it comes down to is whether you want to have a job to go to or not.

have you looked at what other jobs there are out there for you? ok, maybe less money but better hours? less stressful environment? but still giving you some time away from home and children stuff, and still giving you some extra cash for bits and bobs.

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taramac · 19/03/2007 12:22

Thankyou v much bizzydint - you talka lot of sense!

I just have to tell myself its ok to walk away from the money!

I have been delaying so I know you are right that I really dont want to go back.

Think I will take the plunge and hand my notice in and enjoy not working for a little bit!

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BizzyDint · 19/03/2007 12:24

there we are then decision made!

chocolatekimmy · 19/03/2007 14:31

Don't go back. The stress and unhappiness will be destructive for you - and not worth the money.

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taramac · 21/03/2007 16:56

Just handed notice in - no response yet from boss but then he may never reply!

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taramac · 21/03/2007 17:38

This is very big step for me - please notice someone even though I know its not very exciting!

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chocolatekimmy · 21/03/2007 20:16

Well done, I reckon its the right decision based on what you said. Big step for anyone

barney123 · 22/03/2007 21:25

I have recently left my job. Went back from maternity in Nov, handed notice in - in Jan finished 26th Feb. Contemplated it for the whole 12 months, took going back to 1- make my mind up, 2 - get past the period for repayment of mat pay. Was it the right decision?? Last week both kids were poorly - no guilt pangs ringing work to say kids ill etc felt fantastic being there for poorly kids, even though they did drive me mad when on the mend.

I had been there 9 years - take away 2x 12month mat leaves. Massive decisions, could afford to if we change our lifestyle a bit. But who goes out as much, wears expensive clothes when you've got 2 kids anyway.

My view is we can earn the money later - lets do want we are here to do be Mums!!!!

hoolagirl · 22/03/2007 23:35

Tarmac, ive handed my notice in at work as well, and we do need the money.
I hated my work so much that my DP told me to chuck it and 'we'll manage'.
My job sounds like easy money as well, I work from home full time, but for various reasons I hate it.
Luckily my notice period is 8 weeks and I should find something else in this time.
Good luck, and enjoy your time at home with your dc's.

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