We have been very happy with our current nursery and definitively trust the staff. However, since some time ago DS has become a bit clingy in the mornings and refuses to stay (Having said that, he also refuses to go home at the end of the day). But today, when I arrived, they were showing the nursery around to a couple of new parents, and DS again started hiding behind my legs (but was smiling) when I wanted to pass him to his key worker he refused and made a face as if he was going to cry, she took him anyway and said "You are not going to be horrible now, are you?".
I don't mind if the staff tells DS off if he is doing something wrong (actually I expect they do it), but I didn't like him being told off when he needed some reasurance, further to that we have "No-adjectives-policy" at home so we can say "that's not nice" but we don't say "you are not nice".
Surely, I'm overreacting but given my deficient diplomatic skills in English, can anybody suggest a way to tell the nursery we don't want adjectives without making them resentful?, after all DS spends a great amount of time there and these persons are a very important part of his life, and I will feel terrible if they stop being nice to him as of course, I'm not there to supervise