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Oh.Hell - Have I done the right thing!??!?!!? eeeeeek!

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Beccarollover · 05/07/2004 13:07

Well, Ive been a big brave (and possibly stupid) girl and told work Im not happy and want to leave!!!

I had planned on waiting until mortgage was signed for (which would have been the sensible thing to do) but last night Meg started throwing up with a tummy bug and I just though Oh F*ck it, Im going to have to ring or they will think Im just taking the piss as Ive had SO much time off with them being ill - so I rang one of the bosses (the one who put me forward for the job) to tell him I was really sorry but Megan was ill and basically just opened my heart and it all came flooding out!!

Told him that I earn no money going to work, that I miss being with the kids, I hate the permanent illnesses they have, I hate going to work just to pay someone else to look after the kids when I would rather be doing it, how I felt shit on them as they are really decent people and didnt want to let them down etc etc

He was really great, we were on the phone for about an hour and a half and he was basically saying how sorry he would be to see me go but that he understood and that not to worry and my happiness was far more important than his business etc etc

We left with him telling me not to worry but suggesting that if there is any way we can sort something out for me to have the time I need with the family yet still work from them in some way that that would be great but to not feel pressured if I do really just want to walk away completely!!!

HELP!!!! What do I do!!

It didnt help that when I put the phone down to him the tummy bug hit me and Ive been up being sick all night - feel quite panicked that Ive done it now, I PRAY the mortgage is all ok! Im not sure what to do about the working arrangements - does anyone have any thoughts?!?

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twiglett · 05/07/2004 13:12

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Beccarollover · 05/07/2004 13:18

Whatever decision I make I need to be so sure its the right one as I cant mess them around again, I dont want to accept different working terms to then decide I dont want to do it at all.

If I could organise some work from home/evening work I would then actually make some money because childcare would still be much lower so thats worth thinking about.

My plan had been to pack work in and register as a childminder - doing school drop off and pick up and possibly have one child during the day. Maybe I could still do this but just do the school drop off and pick up for a little bit of cash and then some evening work with current employer (I think I could dial in from home into their system and do the phone based/research based work) maybe that would work quite nicely, give me some spending money and all that time with the kids.

I have also volunteered with an organisation similar to Homestart - the lady from there is coming to see me on Monday to talk about the training.

So much to think about !

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twiglett · 05/07/2004 13:24

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Beccarollover · 05/07/2004 13:38

Yeah, I think the morning and after school drop offs is all I will comit to, especially at first.

My other manager just rang to say that they see me as a longterm investment and not worried about short term problems with meg being ill etc, im good at my job get on with the customers and they would hate to lose me, they want to talk about flexible options - work from home totally, 1 day in the office, half a day here and there he said whatever it takes we will try and sort it out and dont worry!

DO I HAVE THE MOST UNDERSTANDING EMPLOYERS OR WHAT!!??

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KatieMac · 05/07/2004 17:04

How lovely for you - you must feel valued by your firm. I would sit down and work out what is best for you. Would a whole day at work be best or bits and pieces. Could you do culmative (sp) hours - ie ave 12 hrs a week but do 6,15,11,16 as the children allow....I would have loved that as it is done over a year - so it has to add up in the end (IYSWIM) or even just mornings I worked with someone who worked 6am til 9am -it worked for them

Loads of luck whatever you decide

oliveoil · 05/07/2004 17:11

Your employers sound fab, makes a change to hear a good story . Mine are good as well, they reduced my hours to suit me when i found 4 days too much.

Agree to make a 'wish list' of what you would ideally like and try to come to an arrangement with them.

codswallop · 05/07/2004 17:12

ooh br no time to read this

will talk later

melsy · 05/07/2004 22:03

Oh my goodness are there business like that for real , tottaly amazing. What a refreshing change. Must make you feel great , I hope.

Sorry bout tummy ache , is it getting better ??

codswallop · 05/07/2004 22:08

this is good

what will happen next?

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Beccarollover · 05/07/2004 22:37

It would make me feel good if I could just stop throwing up!

TBH my head is spinning - I dont know which path to choose so to speak

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Beccarollover · 06/07/2004 15:07

I feel better this morning although I rang in sick for the meeting this morning as still felt awful through the night - so it gives me til tomorrow to think about it.

I still dont know what to do!

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CountessDracula · 06/07/2004 15:15

You could try doing annualised hours (think it's called that) Ie you contract to do a certain number of hours a year so you can do them as and when you can fit them in.

Your company sounds wonderful. I would try and keep something going with them so that when the kids are older you still have a job, sounds like it would fit in well with school hours etc.

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