When you both work, how do you allocate responsibilities around the house?

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I am struggling at the moment because my DH doesn;t see the household type stuff that I do.

He is very good in that he will put on a wash, wash up, etc, but he will not accept the other stuff that takes a lot of time, e.g. homework, spellings, forms from school, activities, organising things for the children (we have 3 all under 9). Thatsnot to mention other things I do like tidying bedrooms, clearing the garden, painting rooms, emptying the garage.

He thinks because he does washing and day to day stuff he is a domestic god.

But I'm getting more and more tired and more and more resentful. How can I make him realise?

yuo will also find that dh wont do the stuff properly either, for our next house i will be looking for round rooms as the hoover never sees the corners, when he does it...
I am also looking for tips myself,I was considereing a rota on a week by week basis, that way we all get the rotten jobs equally. Say one week one of you is responsible for all of the childrens stuff, and the other person all of the household tasks. I suppose this would only work if you both work similar hours

Ask him to do one specific thing, eg homework, because you have some kind of minor emergency that calls you elsewhere. Heap praise on for successful job well done. Was given this tip by a proper feminist, so is legit, though will make you want to claw off own face with resentment at twee patronising and manipulation, and general desire to scream 'look what I do!' He will genuinely believe he's already giving his all, there's no point competing.

Thanks

Like the comment about round walls. He does hoover occasionally if required.

He genuinely thinks he does more than his fair share.

macneil - it is sometimes like having a fourth child.

All men are like children, can relate to the clawing of face ...
its the comments thta follow, like " i have done xxxx for you" no you havent,,,its your home too, you lazy b's*