Affair with boss

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I am an outside contractor for several different work sites.

I have been sleeping with a married managing director and his wife has found out. She called me today.

I do not have a written contract with this company, but I have been there for 6 years now.

He asked me to cover for him by not revealing he whole truth and I did. I feel awful for not being completely honest with her but I do not know this woman so I have no loyalty to her.

I am due to go back in on Monday afternoon and don't know what to do or where I stand. I have heard from him since I spoke to her so I don't whether this will affect my job. Can he just get rid of me after 6 years whether I have a contract or not?

That's a really shit argument OP. So lame to say 'I wasn't cheating on my partner'.

Fucking hell.

It's really, really shit being the wife. The pair of you have fucked her over for what? Meaningless sex. Proud of yourself?

Ijust don't feel guilty for it.

I would worry less about your job and more about your moral compass to be honest.

Well aren't you a treat.

'girl code' ? Maybe there should be a 'boy code' and then women wouldn't get cheated on? Call it - stick to your marriage vows.

If you are a contractor then it would be your notice agreed in you last contract. Normally they are renewed every 6 months but they can just terminate. Not sure how 6 years would make a difference. If you are employed then there are IR 35 issues.

Take your outrage back to the relationship board, and spray the girl code vitriol-guilt trip there. OP had the good sense to post in Employment Issues.

OP, have you worked elsewhere in that 6yrs or is your work full time for him? Do you wear a uniform/drive a van/have business cards with this firm's logo? It will be lol about showing who 'controls' your day-to-day work.

No way should he be able to get out of a work relationship just because his romantic one has come to an end.

If you are self employed then ACAS is no good to you as their service is for employed only.

Since you are not an employee or have a running contract , i have no idea what your rights would be. Whywould you want to go back anyways? Sounds like you wanted to leave regardless,but you're just pissy it's not on your terms. Well..tough titties.

So you've been stupid enough to shag the bloke who you are working for, and you've been stupid enough not to have a contract for whatever work you were doing. I'd find another contract sharpish.

Surely if you are a contractor, there must be some kind of contract, by definition, which would say what your rights are to some extent?

If you have no contract, isn't that some kind of casual labour? but even then, I had the impression that if a company keeps you long enough (and 6 years IS a long time!), you acquire some of the rights of an employee..

Definitely get expert advice, but bear in mind that not all companies stick to what they are allowed to do, and if they don't, you may have to fight thru the tribunal system (which could take a lot of time, and leave you unable realistically to continue to work there anyway).

Hopefully you will get what you deserve OP.

Basket OP didn't need to post the details for the purposes of employment advice only. She could easily have just enquired about her rights as a contractor without mentioning her personal life at all.

Surely not an employee if she's been working for several companies as per the OP.

if women actually stuck to the 'girl code' and didn't sleep around with men when they know there in a relationship then men wouldn't be able to cheat

Don't put the responsibility for fidelity exclusively onto women. And don't be so naive as to believe cheaters are always honest about their relationship status. I don't agree with what the OP did (and frankly won't be giving her advice as she doesn't even feel guilty) but when we repeatedly put the moral obligation to 'behave' on women, we're giving men the green light to misbehave as the blame doesn't stick to them as much as it does us.

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No I do not have any of that. I'm in there twice a week as a self employed cleaner.
All my information goes on their monthly invoices. This was my first contract when I was naive about the business side so never actually got them to sign a contract (only place that doesn't have one)

Thank you to other poster for the head up about ACAS not being able to help. I will try CAB.

Good luck. I would speak to Acas.

Thank you. I will update you Monday

Exactly Lost, more eloquently put than I could ever do it.

No it's not a joke but I'm not the one who cheated on my partner. I will not be made to feel guilty for that!

You should quite frankly. You shagged him knowing he was married, so yes you should feel guilty.

The MD shagged the maid? Sorry OP but you are (and he is) a very tired cliche.

The MD shagged the maid? Sorry OP but you are (and he is) a very tired cliche.
^^ THIS

Good luck. I would speak to Acas.

ACAS is for people who are employed. Not self employed contractors. Lets not waste their time eh?

The legal definition of 'employed' for employee rights is not the same as tax definition. The OP may be an employee. ACAS will help with that.

And why the weird attempt to patronise eh?

Thank you for all the advice. I definitely panicked unnecessarily about work.

He is writing me up a contract that will be ready to sign tomorrow morning.

Thank you again.