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Give me the courage to hand my notice in!

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Beccarollover · 27/06/2004 02:33

I have decided to quite my job ( I work 3 days a week as a [lowly paid] IT Consultant )

Here is some background - would really appreciate some help and input!

Reasons for leaving:
Most months I dont earn anything after childcare is paid, even on those that I do its about £40 a month.
Im not interested in the career path.
I want to be there for DD starting school in September.
DS has been ill one after another since starting nursery and Im off all the time looking after him.
We can afford for me not to work (just about) on DPs wages
Im thinking of registering as a childminder to take on another child during the day and maybe 2 for school run.
I work in an office of boring old men.
I dread my work days and feel sick when the day draws near.

There!! That enough for you! Im very very sure about it the more I think about it and just want to get my notice in and start the ball rolling.

I started the job at the beginning of March so havent even been there 4 months yet - I feel really awful as I was put forward for the job by one of the directors who I am quite friendly with from previous working relationship - I feel shitty on him after him recommending me.

They have implied on lots of ocassions the plans they have for me in the business (ie that they will pay me through my exams and want me in the company long term)

I have just been off for 1 weeks holiday then had to have another week off as DS poorly in hospital - they have been quite understanding about this so, again feel shitty handing notice in after that.

Dont know what to say, who to say it to or how to say it!!

HELP!

Forgot to say its a small, quite young IT company - with 5 owner/directors, me, receptionist and one other consultant.

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soapbox · 27/06/2004 02:45

BR - life's too short to spend time doing something you hate

Go for it - sounds like you've really thought this one through!

jampot · 27/06/2004 02:54

Go for it becca - if you can afford not to work why do it if you're unhappy?

Word of advice though: don't become a childminder because it earns you money to stay at home. I did it in my ds's nursery year but only lasted 3 months - I couldn't stand spending my ds's time (dd was at school) and having to share it with another child (also from nursery). I gave it up and never looked back.

Also when your ds starts school you won't have time to go to work!!!

Freckle · 27/06/2004 10:16

Just be honest with them. Explain that, with your son being ill, you feel that you are not able to commit to the firm in the way you would want to and you feel it would be better to leave now so that they can find someone more suitable. I'd also send a personal note to the director who recommended you.

Then you could look into jobs such as doing Virgin Vie parties, etc, if you don't want to share your time with your son with any other children.

wobblyknicks · 27/06/2004 10:23

If you want to leave - you should leave asap - don't feel tied down to your job when its not what you want to do. Have you looked into doing IT consulting from home?

ChicPea · 27/06/2004 10:34

Don't feel bad about resigning. If they wanted to sack you they wouldn't feel bad so why should you. Think of yourself only.

twiglett · 27/06/2004 11:39

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twiglett · 27/06/2004 12:01

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eefs · 27/06/2004 12:18

It sounds like you've mande your decision but feel bad about telling the company, totally understandable - any chance you could do work from home?

lavender1 · 27/06/2004 12:27

don't feel bad, if it's making you unhappy then it's not worth it. Also if they are reasonable employers (which they sound like offering to pay for your course and the fact that you were recommended) then I am sure they will feel sad at loosing you but will be fully understanding of your situation (hopefully). If it all ends amicably then you should even get a good reference for any job in the future

lavender1 · 27/06/2004 12:27

whoops I meant

bunnyrabbit · 27/06/2004 14:01

Becca,
See? Told you so!!

Now get off your a**e and do it!!

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Beccarollover · 27/06/2004 14:45

Great, thanks for your replies - Im getting myself really wound up about it all and probably blowing it out of proportion (which is typical for me) - only thing is.....we are in the process of moving but havent yet exchanged contracts, our mortgage offer is in and valid for 6 months but what if it all went wrong?? We needed my salary for the mortgage multiplier.....

Hmmmm

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marialuisa · 27/06/2004 14:50

becca, can you stick it out until you exchange? (not sure how far down the line this is?)

Otherwise it ounds as if you've made the decison. I agonised for days about how to hand in my resignation from my previous job. In the event it ws fine, but I felt so guilty, even though i'd been miserable there!

twiglett · 27/06/2004 23:02

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Beccarollover · 28/06/2004 13:30

Yeah - I will wait until I exchange, I think the excitement of making a decision made me just want to leave!!

Im sitting here now feeling like a fraud as I dont think Im even very good at my job I want to be at hoooooooooooome

Oh well - at least an end is in sight even if its not as close as I thought.

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Kaz33 · 28/06/2004 13:44

Becca - I am currently on the way out of my job, am negoitating voluntary redundancy ( been here for 6 years ).

Hopefully by the end of next week I will be out of here. Am excited, scared, and darn right petrified all in equal measures. I know that I am doing the right thing for my family, every time the nanny comes to work I think why am i paying someone to do my job .

Do it, money and career is not everything and we can always get back into work in a few years time.
Good luck.

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Beccarollover · 28/06/2004 13:52

Thanks Kaz

My sentiments exactly - when I see the nursery money fly out of the bank every month I think but WHY!!!??? Like you say, if at any point it is needed we can always get another job.

I wish I could stop feeling so GUILTY about dropping my employers in it.

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essbee · 28/06/2004 14:05

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Beccarollover · 28/06/2004 14:14

Ive submitted all of the payslips/employers reference and have the mortgage offer.

BUT better safe than sorry I suppose!

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malinki · 04/07/2004 13:05

Becca

Do what I did, I gave my company 10 weeks notice, I quit because my job was boring and I am due to start IVF this autumn and my daughter starts school on Spet 2nd. My sister 1st put the thought in my head when she said I bet you can't wait for the school assemblies, there ace, especially is dd is up for an award of some type. I thought, well I'll be at work, so thats that. Then my DH said I don't want dd to go to out of school club as he had been talking to someone at his office who has young children and it is supposidly a fact that you learn more in the 1st 5 minutes after school about what they have done as this is the time they need to tell you??. So when we were away on holiday, we got a piece of paper and wrote down the pros and cons of me giving up work, the outcome was amazing, especially regarding money, yeah we'll be skint for a few months until we sort ourselves into a routine, but if I need money I will temp. The other thing I am trying to do, is apply for clerical jobs in schools, this way I get term time only work and can have the holidays my daughter does.. I handed my notice in 3 weeks ago and my boss was totally shocked. We have been down the avenue of part time hours (which were refused), but then I would have needed someone to look after her during the holidays. I have always worked all my life (well since leaving school), so even though part of me is scared to be giving up, I am excited at the same time, and I haven't looked back. At least this way I get another 2 pay checks and get someone I can train to do my job and leave the company on a good note.

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