I can't believe charitable people could be like this. I feel like walking out.

[Rhubarb]

I think I should give my notice in.

I've had enough.

My best friend works for a charity and she says they're a bunch of monkeys (that's not EXACTLY what she said but I don't want to get into trouble for swearing).
What's happened?

You could do so much better, Rhu. You're worth more than the crap you've been dealing with.

sorry to hear that..I'm not on mn much now but thought this might be you

chin up..you will get somethijg better

I saw your earlier thread, has something else happened?

whats up rhubarb, I've missed this

I don't know what has happened either so my comment might be crap..but well intended crap

whats up rhubarb, ive just phoned a charity no. to check when my bag of stuff is being collected

Oh dear, what's happening?

come on now

spill it

I hate these threads that give half a story

Is she upset because you talked to her boss Rhubarb?

It is a lack of communication on her part and I bet she is tryingto cover up her mistake for not telling them in the first place when you told her iykwim.

Has she donesomething else?

{{hugs}}

Rhubs, life is too short for all this shit. I honestly don't think you will ever get the recognition you deserve in this job despite all the good work you do. IIWY I would start looking for something else asap. Don't worry about the job title not reflecting what you have been doing - you can make your duties clear in your CV and can emphasise it in a covering letter. Move on positively before this crappy job destroys your will to live

I took this job on because it was part time and flexible and I have young children to care for.

However I was aware I may be asked to travel and work outside my core hours FROM TIME TO TIME. I have done this. I've bent over backwards for them, given the job 100%, I hardly ever take a proper lunch, I do above and beyond the call of duty. In their turn they demand more and more, expect more, EVERYTHING is a priority, yet they manage to still call me admin asst so they can pay me shit.

I told my boss 2 weeks ago that I couldn't make a 6hr round trip to Sheffield and back because dh had a job and I couldn't get the childcare. She failed to tell her boss this, therefore making it look like I've only just notified them. She gave me a lecture on how I was taking from the company and not giving back. She harped on about an "ideal world" theory and basically blamed me for "choosing" to become a working mum. And she told me that she identified with me, even though she's on around 50k, has a house in Thailand, 2 here and her dh can take paid holidays to look after her kids.

I complained to her boss but the upshot is that I have to leave my youngest in childcare from 8am-6pm on that day and pay OUT OF MY OWN POCKET for dd to go to the breakfast and after school club so I can go to Sheffield because it is compulsory.

And I've had to rearrange pre booked and paid for childcare for a meeting in Newcastle because my boss realised today that she had double booked, but that's my fault for not being able to make the first date they suggested.

Why should I pay out of my pocket to put my 3yo ds in nursery from 8am-6pm? He knows I pick him up at 3.30pm and is always standing by the window waiting for me. Why should I let him down? How can they call themselves family friendly?

Give me one good reason not to hand my notice in tomorrow.

I would not pay for any of that b/c I would quit.

That's just taking the piss.

Well, I wouldn't stay another minute Rhubarb, but I don't have to pay your bills

If you can manage without your wage for a couple of weeks, then hand your notice in. If not, start looking for something else now - even temping for a while (I guess you have office skills). But don't stay - it's making you unhappy and it's not worth it. IMO.

put in an expenses claim for "additional childcare costs" I know I could in my last job (government) therefore it must be allowable under tax laws etc. Go to big boss and ask.

Are you looking for other work? Is there anything good about working there?

I'm afraid, poor love, that everyone's childcare has to be paid out of their own pocket.

But I do think they're taking the piss. I think you need to do some research and speak to someone with a knowledge of employment law

are you a member of any union? I think you should seriously look into it. Because if this does all go shit-shaped before you find somewhere better you are going to need someone on your side

don't let them get you down. I think we've had this thread before alarmingly recently from you and I waffled on enough here without starting off on you again

This is why I stopped be so helpful at my last job. The more you do, the more they expect, the more they dump on you. THEN they expect you to have a positive attitude to the company

It's easy to say leave but when you need the cash and have commitments sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and bide your time.

I have asked, I've had this out with them already. I cannot claim childcare expenses as they see that as a government issue and nothing to do with them.

I like the people around me who I work with and I know I'm good at the job I do. But they are taking the piss. I've put my foot down from day one, they know family come first. But still they push and push and push.

Others just do it you see. Nobody makes a fuss.

Boss spoke to me just before I left and she said that if I hadn't gone to her boss, she could have worked it so I didn't have to go to Sheffield, but that is bollocks! I told her that I would go to him directly and she was saying that I HAD to go, she never said she could do anything for me apart from lecture me on work ethos. She is trying to cover her back. I am furious.

Capp we had our one to one and she knows I think they are taking the piss. I am a fundraiser ffs! My appraisal was clear in that my priorities are recruiting volunteers, organising events and so on. Yet she said that ultimately because she takes the responsibility if I fail, my job description as admin asst is right.

I said if things didn't improve I would be looking for other work. I got a 2% pay rise recently on merit. No change in job title though and no other opportunities within the organisation.

Agree with Nadine re being 'too helpful', been there done that too.

Do you get paid overtime rates for the times you work outside/beyond your normal hours?

Rhubarb I'm a fundraiser

my title is project manager

and if I fail, well, I fail as a bleeding project manager. they could call me a Yellow Balloon but I'd still have failed

that sounds like a load of toss to me

I know, it is a load of toss. I feel betrayed as I work bloody hard for them, I use my own initiative and take decisions. I help out my colleagues, I even roped in dh when he was unemployed to do some voluntary work for them.

I don't get paid any overtime at all, you are supposed to take time off in lieu to make up for the hours extra you have worked. So the 6 hours of driving to Sheffield and back and the extra cost of childcare, plus the disruption to the kids, will all be made better by giving me a day off. Oh yes, that makes everything ok!

I think it's been so long since these people were in my position, if they ever have been, that they simply cannot relate. My boss has no people skills, I can see that. She rubs people up the wrong way and is also quite extraordinary unprofessional at times.

It is hard to keep your professional composure when you feel so tense with rage.

Rhubs- how's the annual leave situation? It sounds like some time off wouldn't go amiss soon. Recharge your batteries and let go of the rage without inflicting (deserved) injury on your boss and all that.