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Dh is being bullied at work - help! (Long)

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hotandbothered · 12/02/2007 14:36

Says it all really... Where he works is being restructured and jobs are at risk. Since this started, his boss (female) has started picking on him. I think she is worried he will get her job as he is as well qualified and costs less. She is picking holes in his work, letting him project lead sometimes but then taking him off it and giving it to someone else (another woman), and making him do extra documentation. He is slightly dyslexic(although never diagnosed) and she constantly picks holes in his writing.
He is getting more and more depressed and lacking in confidence. I hate to see him like this. He worked for his previous company for 8 years with no worries, in fact everyone constantly told me how good at his job he was. Don't know what is best to do. Talk to her boss? Get counselling? Get a new job although what sort of reference would she give? Apply for her job?!
Think there is also some sexual discrimination going on too...

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Tirnanog · 12/02/2007 14:44

That's awful,don't suppose he is a member of a union or perhaps he could contact the citizens advice bureaux for some advice on approaching this bullying boss

hotandbothered · 12/02/2007 15:11

He's in the process of joining the union... Has anyone else experienced this and got do/don't advice for what worked for them?

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VioletBaudelaire · 12/02/2007 15:16

He needs to speak to the manager above his boss. I suggest you and your DH sit down and document all the issues, then he can show the document to senior manager.
Make it perfectly clear that you consider this woman to be bullying, and that it is unacceptable for her to criticise his writing.
Might be worth speaking to the Citizens Advice Bureau for other ideas too.
Good luck - I hope this woman gets what's coming to her.

Freckle · 12/02/2007 15:16

Google the Andrea Adams Trust. It's a website which deals exclusively with workplace bullying. They may have some useful advice.

hotandbothered · 12/02/2007 16:15

Thank you for your advice! I'll try to get dh to sit down tonight and write a diary of all thats happened. Hadn't thought of CAB... I know dh is worried about talking to the 'wrong' person, so someone unrelated to the situation may be a good idea...

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WideWebWitch · 12/02/2007 16:20

Document everything, join the union.

hotandbothered · 13/02/2007 19:31

Thanks WWW. Dh tells me he has been keeping a diary so think he's waiting now for his Union to get back to him. It's just so hard to stop him feeling he's useless...It's really not fair.

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Sexonslightlypuffylegs · 13/02/2007 21:27

If he has an HR department, he must raise a grievance asap. Great idea to keep a diary of everything that is going on.

Best of luck.

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