Hello all,
I'm looking for some advice on behalf of my 22-year-old daughter. She's just (two weeks ago) started a job at a local primary school and is struggling to settle in.
She is a 'floating' TA, meaning she will work in each of the seven classes whenever she is needed. Although this is obviously a great way to gain experience, it means there are seven times the number of classrooms to find her way around, seven times the amount of names to learn, seven times the number of teachers to work with etc. She hasn't been in the same place for more than one day yet, so every day feels like a first day. She has come home crying a few times saying that she feels incompetent because she has to keep asking where things are, what to do, which pupils to work with, how to use the photocopier and so on. Although the staff are generally friendly and helpful, she is convinced everyone thinks she is useless for not knowing these things instinctively (or at least remembering once she's been told a couple of times).
She did volunteer in the school last year and seemed to do okay, and she's generally quite bright - she's got a first class degree in English - but she hasn't got any real experience of working with children. No one seems to have taken this into account as she hasn't been given any training. She's thinking about self-funding a TA course so she can 'catch up' a bit, but she doesn't know who ask for advice on this as she isn't linked to a specific class teacher or mentor. Communication in general seems to be quite bad as no one told her things like the door code or the time and date of last week's TA meeting.
Even worse is the dreaded staff room. Apparently the rest of the TAs tend to talk about their children and largely ignore her. She tried eating lunch in a classroom with a new teacher, which was fine until someone announced in a meeting that she needed to go to the staff room more. For the last few days she has been sitting in near-silence feeling unable to contribute. She's not the most confident person at the best of times, so she is finding the situation very uncomfortable. She desperately wants to fit in and be accepted but she doesn't know how.
She says today was the worst yet and seems a bit traumatised. She doesn't think she can carry on like this for much longer, so if anyone has any advice/words of wisdom/reassurance, I know she would really appreciate it.
Thank you xx