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Are you or do you use a childminer?

18 replies

Beccarollover · 09/06/2004 21:03

I'm thinking of training to be a childminder and would be really interested in your views on what makes a good one.

I have rung up for the pack and will be attending a welcome meeting to find out further information on the process and courses to train.

Im working in IT at the moment 3 days a week in a job I really dont enjoy, pay out all my salary in childcare and miss the kids dreadfully.

I think I would love being a childminder but would like a dose of reality about the job encase Im romanticising (is that a word) about what it may be like.

Thanks for any input you may have, I'm really excited about it

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codswallop · 09/06/2004 21:04

waht would you do in hols? or would you only have teachers kids?

Beccarollover · 09/06/2004 21:05

Would look after them in the hols, after all I would be working in the hols at the moment and it wouldnt prevent me from doing things with my kids - if I was going away wouldnt I be able to tell the parents?

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SofiaAmes · 09/06/2004 21:41

Our childminder takes 4 weeks holiday a year. She always takes them during the school holidays and always lets us know way in advance when she is going to take them so that we can book our holidays at the same time. I adore her and so do my children. I think apart from her patience and kindness, the practical side of things that I like about her is that she is really flexible. My ds is 3.5 and has been with her since he was 11 months and she has only called me up once during that time to pick him up because he was ill (he was vomiting). She doesn't complain if we pick the kids up late (ie 6:30 or 7:00) and also does all our babysitting. My only complaint is that she doesn't drive, so that when my ds starts nursery in september (only has half day place), she will not be able to pick him up and/or drop him off and we have had to hire someone else to do that. Other than that she is wonderful and it's great for the kids to have the initmacy of practically one to one, yet still have a few other kids around so they get a social life.

Aero · 09/06/2004 21:50

Am a registered c/m. No time now but will get back to this thread.

Beccarollover · 09/06/2004 21:54

Ohhh thanks Aero, would love to hear your thoughts...

SofiAmes - your childminder sounds lovely

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Aero · 09/06/2004 22:17

Sorry Becca - was just watching Born Too Soon and will have half an eye on BB. Am in on my own with kids tonight as dh is out with friends from work. How nice to have an evening in to myself!!
As I said I am a reg c/m (although not working at the moment as ds2 was born in Jan). I really enjoy it, although it was a very natural progression for me as I've always worked in childcare, so seemed the obvious choice once we started our family. I work part time though - not sure I could do it full time as my own three are a handful! I love being able to work from home and be my own boss (so to speak). I also love the company of young children and watching them grow and develop etc (this is a must for enjoying c/m as your work). It can be very iscolating, so it's important to have things to do outside your own home that involve meeting with other people. What sort of things would you like to know and I'll do my best to help with info etc.

meanmum · 09/06/2004 22:25

I've loved both childminders I've had. The last one just qualified and she kept a daily book of ds's activities including food eaten, nappies and things like that. It might sound silly and is probably time consuming but as a mum I find it so precious as I will keep it and look back on it in the years to come. I of course don't do this as the mother when I suppose I should if I value it so much. The only concern I had was with her son when he started school further away and she had to walk ds there and back each day which is 45 minutes each way so when you add that in with his sleeps and feeds there wasn't as much time for activities and things like that. Other than that she was just wonderful.

Capie · 09/06/2004 22:28

My c/m is mostly great. Biggest issue for parents will alway be whether the kids are happy with her/you. DS is excited to go there in the morning & that lets other things become more "non issues". One of the biggest selling point for me as a 1st time parent was that her house was geared for c/m. She has a room specially dedicated for the kids next to her kitchen. This is made up with loads of pic's on the walls & she has loads for toys for all the stages (she had 6 kids!!!). She does do her best to incorporate your wishes with that of the other kids parents wishes etc. She also actively develops ds & he has florished under her care. They go to groups with the other kids & ds picks up so much form that. Flexible when he is ill with non contagious illnesses & seems to have really come to love ds.
I am sure she would not suit all parents, but she works really well for us.

MeanBean · 10/06/2004 08:26

I had one and liked her very much, because she was laid back, relaxed and the kids were happy with her. She didn't do a load of activities with them (in fact, she had CBeebies on nearly all the time in winter) but the fact that they were delighted to see her every day and ran straight into her house without any tears or hesitation was enough for me. Also, she cooked proper meals. Which they ate!

allatsea · 10/06/2004 09:00

Both my children adore their child minder. She's good fun, but takes the responsibilities of child minding very seriously. When they're out she lets them 'play', but constantly supervises, (unlike some I see who go off to gossip with other ch/m(. She does painting, cooking and gardening with them, as a result dd is much keener on gardening than I am! She always tries to do what I ask, eg maintain ds nap routine, not let dd sleep in buggy etc etc. She doesn't have lots of children at any one time, in fact generally she prefers one-to-one, but will also take a sibling. My dd has really valued this because it made her feel really special, it also means that ch/m, plus her husband and daughter know both of mine really well and I would say care about her almost as much as if they were their own children. Although she does have the tv on a lot, unless it is raining so hard you would drown they always go out for a walk, even if it just to the postbox, but more often meet up with another child minder and her charge. Her house is a real home and she has rules like ours - don't touch the buttons on the tv/video, no running/climbing indoors. We rave about her so much that my friends were surprised that she looked like an ordinary person when they met her, they thought that she would be walking across water!

twiglett · 10/06/2004 09:40

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webmum · 10/06/2004 09:52

dd goes to a childminder once a week, she's more of a friend really, as I met her througha friend of mine, and occasionally we socialise outside our work agreement.

She's v. good and does lots of things with dd, like craft, cookind, gardening, takes her out to the park and shopping etc etc.

When I was looking for childcare when dd was still a baby, though, I saw a childminder and it really put me off and went for nursery instead. Not that she was nasty or anything, but being dd only a baby, she was looking after older children as well, and I worried about safety issues, the children stayed in an open plan lounge with kitchen ready accessible. (she might have had child locks and everything but Is till did not like it) and there were tiny toys spread everywhere. I also thought what if she has to take on of the children to the loo and my dd is left alone with older children unsuitable toys..etc

I didn't voice my concerns with her and I probably should have, but I just did not get a good impression, besides she was just as inlexible regarding times as the nurery so I did not see any advantage.

My current childminder, is much more flexible, does not charge me for missed days if I tell her in advance, and she will only charge me by the half hour if I'm late (and I warn her).

Another thing that might be useful for you, my concern about some childminders I've seen was also that they did not organise anything for the children and just tried to spend the time some how (no offense to any c/m here, this was just my experience), while with the one I have now, dd seems to do different things all the time, just like at nursery, which was her age I think is quite important (maybe less for younger babies)

unicorn · 10/06/2004 09:53

Childminer!! (illegal to employ kids down mines I think!!!!
Think a good childminder is reliable,flexible,caring and involved... some of the worst I have seen are too busy chatting with pals to notice what their charges are up to (in one instance injuring herself)
Haven't got one, but lots of pals have.

Janstar · 10/06/2004 10:22

I love my childminder. DS has been going to her for three years and I'm sure it feels like a second family to him. She has four children of her own, and the youngest has grown up with ds, like an extra sister.

She is flexible and sensible and well-organised. She adheres to the proper health and safety regulations and has a lovely house and garden with many many toys and plenty of space.

When I broke my leg she took ds earlier each day so that dh could deliver him and she drove him back to me every afternoon and put him upstairs into his cot for me. By the time he woke from his nap dds were home to help me. Without her at that time I couldn't possibly have managed.

The best thing about her is that she always seems to do what I would have done myself in any given situation.

motherinferior · 10/06/2004 10:34

Mine is totally fantastic; has worked all her life in childcare and takes them to playgroup every day; sorts out the older kids' registration to go to playgroup on their own once they're about three, and picks them up and gives them lunch and takes them back; knows them really well; entertains them; feeds them; and has been a crucial part of their lives since both my babies were four months old.

She is also very well networked. She works a lot with her daughter, who is also a childminder, and her best mate who is one too, as well as other childminders who all run a drop-in playground together. As a result, the children have both the security of one family where they're well known and secure, and an extended group of friends and caring adults.

muminlondon · 10/06/2004 10:37

This is what I like about our childminder:

  • very organised with balanced routines but still flexible and good sense of fun
  • lovely food
  • fantastic house and shady garden
  • other (nice) children but never more than a couple at a time (like an extended family)
  • no evidence of TV watching (although who knows!)
  • lots of fun activities like water play, trampoline, little car, music, reading, baking, gardening, etc.
  • lots of outings to the park and shops, etc.
Galaxy · 10/06/2004 12:02

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nightowl · 10/06/2004 23:39

i really like my childminder. shes laid back, very warm and friendly but she takes no crap. perfect! she also doesnt charge me when ds isnt there because she can afford not to. i know that most cant do this but its wonderful for us!

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