Please help - only have until Tuesday to either be a sahm mum or working mum?

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If anyone can give me some perspective that would be great - have been agonising over this for weeks and the deadline is very near.

Currently on mat leave with My second ds. Have until Tuesday to let work know if I am returning or not. Previously working 3/4 days.

My DH is pushing me to be a sahm and I must admit I have enjoyed my mat leave a lot more 2nd time round.

My main worries about not returning to work are :
I have worked at the same place for a few years and have good hours.
Would I get another job like it if I took a break for a while?

Money wise we would be ok if I didn't work but would be nice to have a bit of extra money for holidays etc?

Am totally split 50/50 at the moment - if anyone could tell me good/bad parts of working and staying at home I would be so grateful! Aargh stressing out! It's ruining my bh weekend!!!

Its definitely your decision not your dh's but I love being a sahm. For me its definitely worth the extra stress of looking for another job in the future. For me its special to get that time with ds while he is small, be the one that potty trains him, teaches him things. 12 hour shifts sounds hard practically.

Reported - there's a board for that and permission is needed

Ok a little freaked out - how does davidmays know my location? Surely it can't be a lucky guess?

What did you decide?

I'd do it - go back to work. Especially given your DH reason for you being a SAHM. Either way if 3x12 hr shifts in a week = full time or 3x12hr shifts over 10/14 days =part time with more days off I wouldn't want DH attitude to be little wife at home doing everything to do with the house whilst he earns the money.

If you change your mind later (give it a good 6 months ) then you can always resign or take a career break but you wouldn't be able to do it the other way round.

Also re bf - it depends on age of baby but as they get older and eat more solids bf tends to reduce and can just be morning/evenings or some switch to reverse cycling if you're away from them in the day so feeding more in the night. Obviously if baby is still tiny then pumping will be needed for feeds but there is a requirement for work to provide space/storage for milk, that's not your problem.

Hi all - I've decided to go back on the provision that I can do either 2x12 hour shifts or 3x8 hour shifts. I just can't see me being away from my boys half the week!

So waiting for my flexible hour request to go through - if they say no may have to hand my notice in while I look for something more suitable!

Regarding pumping at work - do they have to give me time to do this and a space to do this in? Talking to my boss today I am not allowed to use prayer room but maybe a room near the toilets (which doubles up as a storage space)! I'm not very happy about this - also need a plug for my electric pump!

Sorry for duplicate posts - a error with the app!