Opinions please on this comment

[threelittlegifts]

And what to do (if anything)
Tutor last week said to me, in response to me joking I was tired, and him asking how I was knowing of my recent work issues:
" well maybe you ought to consider staying at home, and just being a mum"
then subsequently giving me back my assignment as unsatisfactory and me wondering if he wasn't trying to tell me something.
My friend on the course was and and said I should report him, but I don't think I want to do that. Am sure he didn't mean it as unkindly as it sounded. Am more cross at the implication that it is that bloody easy to give up work tbh, also the just a mum comment- grrrr.

I wouldnt do anything, but I think its fair to be If you think maybe it came out worse than it meant to, maybe it did...

make an appointment to talk to him about your work to see what he thinks could be improved. Let him know how hard you work at home and how much you do to enable your course.

threelittlegifts - glad your meeting with your boss went well. Perhaps he will think twice before being nasty now that the union are involved.

Think the comment by your tutor was probably well intended in that you have (admirably) taken on a lot (children, PGCE, work) so I would let it go but definitely arrange to speak to him about how to improve your work and ask to see some assignments which he has passed for guidance.

Perhaps at the same time mention you know it would be the 'easy option'(?) to stay at home but this course and your job are really important to you and no matter how hard it is you are determined to succeed.

Keep your chin up and I will keep my fingers crossed it all gets better for you.

For what it is worth I have had some horrible times at work in the past and it does get better in time - it is just difficult to see that right now.

think your tutor dosen't understand what it takes to be a mum.. it was an insensetive remark to say the least and you have every right to be angry... not sure how far I would take it though tbh....

I agree with bctmum, have a chat with him and if that fails let his tyres down

Thanks for replies.

Have already had feedback of sorts, but he is very vague and not very positive.

Don't think I can bring myself to report him, I wouldn't want him to get into trouble, but my friend feels in his position he should be told if his behaviour is unacceptable, or he will do similar to others. TBH the whole class is not happy, and I think if someone complains about his teaching they will prob mention what he said to me anyway, so I am going to keep out of it. Don't need any more drama!

incy thanks as always for your wonderful support and empathy, it really helps. Have only got 6 months left till qualification. Have to stick it out, it may get better!