Going off with stress and any comeback from work?

[Millionairerow]

I'm thinking of asking the Dr to sign me off as I'm stressed to the hilt. Work has gone through many changes, I'm not getting on with a relatively new boss and there's a lot of pressure. The latest is my line managee who has decided to leave, they can't get a replacement and seem to be expecting me to take on all her work even tho it usually goes to a weekly resourcing committee, they've been ignoring this request and asking what plan I'm coming up with so I can see where this is heading. But back to the stress thing - I want to avoid going off but I'm crying all the time(took the day off sick to get myself together) and scared i won't be rationale trying to e plain how I feel. But equally I don't want a full blown breakdown! I have 3 kids, full time job and the main breadwinner so am concerned the stress thing would be a black mark! But not sure I can see any other way than take somor long poste time out. I am on anti ulcer medication, I have colitis which is flaring up and I'm getting palpitations and occasionally chest pain. I've been drinking more wine during the week and eating rubbish. My hubby bought me a spa evening which was lovely but I spent the whole time crying! Sorry for long post but did you have more probe coming back to work from stress?

Nope but my boss seems to think because I'm back I'm fine! There should never be a comeback in fact they should try to help you once they realise the impact they are having on you. I sobbed On my GP and ate signed me off.

Oh OP. You poor thing. First things first. Get signed off. Now. Your health is already affected and is only going to get worse so it's not IF you go off, it's WHEN. I promise you're better going off now before you have a meltdown at work that's harder to 'come back from'.
I've been where you are and got even more stressed worrying about how it would look going sick and coming back. Once I'd actually handed my sick line in the dread was over and I stayed off till I was fully completely healthy. Guess what? The world turned fine without me. Other people stepped up and when I went back, if anything, people respected me a bit more for drawing a line. I look after my health better now and that comes first. When I went back, I sent a sort of 'hi there I'm back' email round which broke the ice. No-one's given me a second look tbh.
Please get off the ride for a bit now - you'll recover quicker

I have been extremely stressed at work for the past few months (well documented on MN) due to a restructure at work.

I was and have always been a 'coper' muddling through the bad times hoping things would get better.

In July I suddenly started crying for no reason, was anxious all the time and it was only when I spoke to my GP that I realised it was work related stress.

I have taken the odd day off but I am so scared of losing my job I've just kept on going even though I know my health is suffering.

In two weeks I have to interview for my current job, of which there is no guarantee I'll get it. In fact, one member of my team has already been unsuccessful and leaves next week.

The pressure is almost intolerable and I have no doubt now that stress causes physical symptoms. I have caught every bug going this year and once again I am poorly with yet another heavy cold.

It won't surprise you to hear I work for the public sector and work related stress seems to be rife.

I keep getting told by well meaning friends and family that I can get another job and my health is more important and while I aree, not being able to pay the mortgage will be more stressful if I lose my job so I am battling on for the time being.

Your situation seems far more advanced than mine and if I was in your situation, which is entirely possible soon (!) I'd take some time off to recuperate. Gather your strength and go back when you feel better able to cope. Your health really is more important.