Is it ok for a manager to make assumptions about your emotions because your pregnant

[Otterystleopold7]

At work yesterday I was involved in an incident with another member of staff where I asked why they're department couldn't do there own work which caused them to yell at me. After speaking to a manager about the situation and basically being told I was in the wrong and that it was ok for the other member of staff to yell at me because their position is more senior then mine, despite the fact i was visibly upset. The manager then asked me if i was just emotional because i'm pregnant, just wondered if this is considered an appropriate statement for a manager to make or whether it is discrimination.

In what way would it be discrimination? Do you think he treated you differently because you're pregnant? It really wasn't a very helpful comment to make and you'd be well within your rights to tell him not to do it again.

Anyone yelling at someone else should be told not to behave in an unprofessional way. Was your manner emotional when you asked them "why they couldn't do their own work"? I'm not in any way excusing the yelling but I can see how asking that in a confrontational sort of way might lead to an argument.

I wasn't sure what counts as discrimination and whether what was said did as it didn't seem right to dismiss the upset of being yelled at by a colleague just because I'm more likely to be emotional.
And no I wasn't emotional when asked by the colleague it was a simple question asked for curiosity not malice, I am aware that it probably wasn't entirely appropriate but it didn't excuse the response, I was mainly concerned about how the manager dealt with it and whether making a statement about my emotions due to my current circumstances was appropriate and if I had any right to speak to him about it

Could you speak to someone above your manager who you trust who could have a whisper in his ear for you?

Not long left to go so you could rise above it, enjoy your last few weeks of pregnancy and look forward to your maternity and new baby.

I don't think you were being over sensitive or emotional by the sounds of things.

I think your manager sound like a bit of a twat.

However, I don't believe you can ask a question like "Why can't you do your own work" in a non-confrontational, "curious" manner, whatever the rights or wrongs of the response.

Discrimination means being treated less favourably than other because of a particular characteristic (in your example, pregnancy).
On the face of it it doesn't sound like you were discriminated against, but it was a rather silly comment to make.
I agree with PP that your original comment tovthe senior manager sounded aggressive and confrontational though.

Sounds like you're itching for a good fight one way or another.

A lot depends on circumstances, relationships and tones.

If you're usually a very placid, calm person, your manager may have been trying to hint that this is unusual and might be hormonal related. They're people too and allowed to ask questions sometimes.

Dismissing all your concerns "because you're just hormonal" would not be good though, and if (for example) you'd been totally 100% working as usual and your manager had suddenly cut you out of a project because s/he didn't trust pregnant women to be calm or something, that wouldn't be ok either.