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I'm at my wit's end with my job and I feel trapped.

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ToesAndFingersCrossed · 26/08/2015 12:47

6 months ago, I was approached by my friend and asked to apply for a job in her company as I would be perfect for the role (her words). I was pregnant at the time and informed the company that I would not be applying for this reason. They begged me to apply regardless, but I didn't until I found out I had suffered a miscarriage, which coincided with my employers at the time treating me very badly (male dominated industry, disciplined for going home sick when the bleeding/contractions started). So I thought why not, and went for it. I got the job and started in May.

The job I am doing is hell. The boss is the most immature twat I have ever met who yells at his employees for the tiniest thing (mostly when it's his fault things have gone wrong), holds grudges, slams doors... it's like working with a teenager.

The position that I have filled in no way matches the job description, which I suspect is the reason for the previous people leaving (1 year and then 6 months in the role respectively). I was promised a whole lot of training and a progression to the kind of role I had hoped to be in in a few years but this hasn't happened at all. In fact, I was given quite a lot of responsibility in an area I have absolutely zero skills or experience in (I didn't "exaggerate" on my CV about this either, I have been honest from the start that this is something I have never done and don't know how to do) with no training or help, despite expressing my concerns to my boss every single day that I didn't know what I was doing and was making it up as I went along. Inevitably I did not do a very good job on the task and was yelled at in front of the whole office to the point where I excused myself and went to cry in the loos for half an hour.

My boss has now sat me down for a chat and said he understands my concerns, and is willing to let me go part time and not do the other part of this job (that was never in the job description to begin with, and that he doesn't want to train me to do). So now I am doing the same job I applied for but in 2 days a week instead of 4 days a week and therefore for half the money!

I am so miserable. I took a major risk taking this job, mainly on the basis of being promised progression and training. Now I feel stuck here. It will make my CV look terrible if I leave as I left my previous job sooner than I would have if I hadn't been approached (2 years) and I'm just going to look flaky.

The thing is, I am now pregnant again, so taking an almost 50% pay cut was never part of my plans! The company doesn't have an enhanced maternity pay package, so I was relying on building up savings in the run up to mat leave, which is impossible now.

My current plan is to stick it out and go on maternity leave as early as possible without a view to returning after. Is there anything at all I can do to make my life better? Should I just jack it in and go to a temping agency for 6 months? Will they be likely to employ a pregnant person as it's only temp work?

Sorry for the long post, and thanks in advance for any advice you might throw my way.

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IrenetheQuaint · 26/08/2015 21:21

Ugh, that's rubbish. Could you find something else to do the other 3 days a week, or temp for those days? Staying 2 years in your previous job is pretty standard, I'd have thought, so don't worry about that. You can afford one swift change of job without employers looking suspiciously at you.

greenpinkorange · 01/09/2015 22:28

Congratulations on your pregnancy.
Your boss sounds like an asshole.

If working in your current role with your boss is going to stress you out then you may consider agency work for the next 6months. You will be getting paid more (4 days per week instead of 2) plus then you can save up like your original plan.

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