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Should I mention children in job application?

28 replies

ShatterResistant · 05/08/2015 22:14

In the last 2 years, I've taken 2 lots of 6 months maternity leave. Since then, I've gone part time, and been comprehensively sidelined at the company I've been with for 10 years (a whole nother story) so I'm now applying for new jobs. As I write my cv and covering letter, it's becoming clear to me that it appears that I've gone from being an international high-flyer to pretty run-of-the-mill with no explanation. It almost looks like I've been demoted, which is absolutely not the case. So, should I mention the children?

Your advice greatly appreciated, and any other thoughts.

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amothersplaceisinthewrong · 05/08/2015 22:21

Yes I would mention them as they are the reason you have gone part time etc which is completely justifiable. You need to present yourself in the most positive way you can.

AgentProvocateur · 05/08/2015 22:23

No! Not appropriate.

bambooyoohoo · 05/08/2015 22:26

I don't think you need to mention the maternity leave, but I guess you could mention them to explain the change from full to part time, whether on your CV or in the covering letter.

ShatterResistant · 05/08/2015 22:30

You say not appropriate, agent, but it feels as if I'm somehow lying, or at the very least, omitting something. I feel that would make me way less likely to be invited for interview, don't you? I've been in recruiting positions myself, and you can always tell when there's something not quite right.

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AgentProvocateur · 05/08/2015 22:34

I think the time to mention it would be in the interview "change of family circumstances". I always feel, rightly or wrongly, that candidates (always women in my opinion) who mention their children on an application form or CV are taken less seriously.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 05/08/2015 22:38

Can you get someone impartial to look at your covering letter and CV to see if they agree that it looks fishy?

How would you put in a letter, though? It's not really selling you very well to use up precious words saying that you have gone part time because of having children, whereas in an interview it is easy enough to mention it if raised or at a suitable point without it becoming the focus.

Husbanddoestheironing · 05/08/2015 22:43

Maybe find a suitable-sounding euphemism for the cause of the 'down-size'? I always cite leaving a good job that I loved after only 3 years (in a slow-moving profession) in my CV as 'left due to family relocation' as I feel it needs explanation. i.e. It was the potential 400 mile commute that made me leave, not that I couldn't do it -as DH earns more than me, he got a better job, and it worked for me to have a year at home with the kids. They can ask for more details at interview if they need to know.

Bilberry · 05/08/2015 22:47

I would say absolutely not apart from maybe an oblique reference to why you want to be part-time in the covering letter. An employer would want work to be your priority during work hours so you shouldn't suggest it might be otherwise by referencing your out-of-work priorities more than necessary.

ShatterResistant · 05/08/2015 22:52

Hmm, I see what you're all saying. I'm uneasy because I work in a job where dates are very identifiable. So I've gone from being involved in ALL the main things to only doing quite low-key stuff, iyswim- therein lies my worry. I'd put it in the covering letter, towards the end, something like "for the last 2 years, since having my children, I've been working part-time. However, I now feel it's the right moment for a new, bigger challenge, and I'd be thrilled to join your team." But probably in slightly better words than that. No?

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ShatterResistant · 05/08/2015 22:53

P.s. I'm happy to work full time for a new employer. I don't think it can be any other way, sadly.

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EBearhug · 06/08/2015 00:46

I wouldn't mention it on the CV, but I might mention it on the covering letter in terms of you are now available for full-time work and a more challenging position. You could say that was down to changing family circumstances, but if I were recruiting, I'd be more interested in whether you want to do part time or full time now, not what you've been doing previously (obviously the experience you've had previously is relevant, but whether it's been part time or full time less so, if you see what I mean.)

Yukky · 06/08/2015 01:23

I'm currently applying for new jobs and do not plan to mention that I've had 2x12m of mat leave, nor that I was PT at any point.

Would you not just list all the duties/achievements under the one role? So that you don't really separate out the pt from the ft as such?

Unfortunately I think there are still too many discrimination issues against women in the workplace and IMVHO I suspect outing oneself as a working mother just adds fuel to that fire.

Unless you specifically need your future employer to be aware if your family situation I wouldn't mention anything at all.

ShatterResistant · 06/08/2015 07:49

Really interesting to get your opinions, thank you so much. I think I'll go with something oblique, like "family circumstances". Fingers crossed! Really appreciate your help.

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Umbrelladilemma · 06/08/2015 07:56

I'm with yukky - just list everything under one role and don't specify whether part time, full time, etc.

Itsbloodyraining · 06/08/2015 08:11

This is really helpful, I'm about to start applying for jobs after children. I'm going to go with, change in family circumstances too!

flowery · 06/08/2015 08:48

Does the application form really ask for what hours you worked?

ShatterResistant · 06/08/2015 09:58

Flowery, there is no application form. I'm asking for advice on what to put in my covering letter.

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Bubblesinthesummer · 06/08/2015 10:04

I would mention it somewhere.

Within my working life I have looked at hundreds and hundreds of CVs and I would question long periods of unemployment or a huge change in job direction, if there is no explication somewhere.

Bubblesinthesummer · 06/08/2015 10:04

*explanation

Thurlow · 06/08/2015 10:08

I wouldn't mention it. Maybe at the interview if you are clearly asked about the changes to your job description. But not on a application form.

Though to be honest, if I was looking at an application from a woman anywhere between 20-50 and it included changes like you've described, I'd just make an assumption that they had probably been on maternity leave or gone part-time because of childcare issues. I'm sure that's probably a completely wrong assumption to make, but hey.

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flowery · 06/08/2015 12:11

Why are the hours you happen to be working relevant then? Where are you mentioning those?

Are you doing a completely different job now, different job title/responsibilities, which looks more junior?

Sorry, just struggling to see the need for an explanation at all.

PiggyBeekman · 06/08/2015 12:36

Why are you mentioning hours? Why are you mentioning children? I don't see the need for it at all. List your previous roles on your CV and leave it at that. The hours you worked in past roles are irrelevant and if I was hiring I wouldn't want to know, I'd only want to discuss what the hours were for the role I was recruiting for.
Just checking, you also aren't leaving gaps in your CV for mat leave?
Just focus on this role, what you can offer and bring to the company. You sound like you feel you should apologise to them for having children.
Good luck with it anyway!

itilqueen · 06/08/2015 14:40

Jesus, don't put stuff about having children in your covering letter!

Just focus on this role, what you can offer and bring to the company. You sound like you feel you should apologise to them for having children.

This.

The covering letter is intended to highly briefly why you're a good fit for the role and explain anything really really significant - thinking you may be seen as on the slow-track if you present hrs worked/etc in the CV is moot - you shouldn't put any of that stuff in there. Mentioning anything to do with part time is also moot here because you say you'll work full time potentially, so that's not relevant.

Your CV and cover letter needs to sell you.

As someone who manages recruitment at work (it's not a fulltime role in HR, i just assist when our department is hiring) it would be cringe-worthy to receive a CV and covering letter which reveals all sorts about your personal setup... just tell them why you're the best candidate and leave it at that!