If you have older children - what do you do about childcare??

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I am thinking of returning to work following a career break but the childcare issue is stopping me.
I have 3DDs ages 15 and 11 x2 what childcare would I need ?
How do other mums who work full time cope with the amount of holidays and what do you do when they are sick?

Its a case of having to be understanding... The other day she said she would like to move back but she would be "letting daddy down" - she never seemed to think about how i have felt all these months..
My parents cant believe that there is no actual law against an 11 yr old being left in a house alone - but ive told them ive checked on the nspcc website etc and there isnt. I would NOT be happy though if she was left alone in the evenings /late at night. But when i questioned her the other day , she clammed up 'cos she wants to protect her dad.

By her not worrying about how you feel, it proves how much more secure she is with you. She doesn't feel she needs to prove her love.

I never had to choose between my parents, but I did try to "protect" my dad over things, like you describe. Even when he didn't deserve it!

It's all quite new with you and your situation. Things will come back to an even keel if you carry on being patient and understanding. The one thing she won't take is criticism of her dad, as I imagine she'll take it personally. Sounds like you know how to tread carefully.

I hope it works out well for you all. As long as she knows she can come back to you any time, without any pressure, then it will be ok. x

Oh, meant to say, never had to choose between them when they split up... Duh.

Sorry for the highjack by the way!

thanks for that - ive got all emotional now - that 1st bit you wrote was lovely!

On the "fantastic relationship " with siblings I have found that too. When my older children have looked after the yougner ones it really makes them closer. It's lovely.