double standards?

[ladygoinggrey]

I've been on maternity leave. Going back and DH, who is self employed is doing some paternity leave until baby's day care place is available in Sept. He wants to do some further education courses in the evenings. This would mean leaving dd in jy care before my working day ends - I work from home mostly. I've explained

• I'm an employee, not self employed and stealing an hour from my employer is not ok
• alternatives I've suggested are -a baby sitter to cover the missing hour or, my office is near his training place so I work intown those days and meet him at training place where I get Dc and take home.
• He says I am overreacting and overcomplicating things and I can just leave 1 year old to play in corner of my home office for the hour as I did to him when I needed to get something done and he was working from home.

Am I exhibiting double standards and over complicating things?

Well, yes tbh if you expected him to work from home with the baby there for an hour then it's double standards to complain about him expecting it.
Even though he's self employed (so not stealing time from an employer) the fact is if it's working time for him, he can't reasonably expect to care for a child as well.

Get a babysitter for the last hour of your day and don't expect eachother to manage work and baby!

I don't see the problem. But if you think it isn't right then just do the extra hours in the evening or at weekends.

Yes, writing it down I'd realised I didn't show enough consideration for his work when I needed to get stuff done. He'd always said it was fine because he can make the hours up whenever but actually I should have insisted on getting a babysitter those times I needed to go out. Icant make up hours in the evening due to the nature of my job. Thanks for the feedback

If he can make up the hours and you can't then it's not double standards as its not comparable. Sounds like meeting him at training would be easiest?

I can just leave 1 year old to play in corner of my home office
No dont do that. As you say it is not right to do that to your employer unless it is an emergency. Get the sitter.