meeting with HR

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my line manager and HR met me and said that I am not performing well...picked up few things and commented on my odd behaviour ( weird behaviour). Asked me a question about the mental health...asked me to go to GP to check myself. I have anxiety due to stress in life but I am trying to manage it. MY GP said OK I can work. what is next please?

What do you mean by weird behaviour?

I would let the manager know what the GP said and then work on my performance, have they given you a time frame for improvement?

What sort of behaviour, OP? Do you think it is possible that you have a mental health problem, or is that just something that your employer has suggested? Would you say that the anxiety is over and above what the "average" person might experience?

Also, do you think their concerns about your performance are valid? How long have you been in your current role?

Yes I had some stress recently so a bit stressed, also anxious. They said I will have another meeting next week, follow up. Shall I ask them what kind of meeting and who with?

is your anxiety stopping you from performing your work duties/meeting deadlines and targets?

Are you doing anything to help your anxiety and is there nothing your work can do to help for a while?

It sounds like you are being performance managed so you should try and find ways to be able to feel supported in being able to do you job properly.

Are you receiving your reviews and necessary training?

so is it better to admit yeas I am NOT well, stressed? I dnot see that they would support me...they sounded very negative at the meeting, criticizing rather than trying to help

You need to say something like (via email, get it written down)

"Obviously I'm concerned that someone has described my behaviour as 'odd.' To help me understand this, can you please give me a couple of specific examples of when people think this has happened?"

If they cannot provide examples, you have a stronger case in any subsequent performance management that occurs.