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Do I stick with my new job?

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Roxie85 · 29/04/2015 22:29

My daughter has just turned 16 months and I went back to work after a year of maternity leave. I was never intending to return to my old job as I didn't really like it anymore and luckily within 2 weeks of going back i got a new one.
I've been in my new job for over 2 months and although it's better than my old one it still doesn't feel quite right.
I ideally wanted somewhere I could progress (my main reason for leaving last job) and although I was told there was scope to move upwards I don't think I've got it in me in this role. It's quite a complex job and I don't feel I will have enough experience in the timescale to progress as quickly as I'd like. Also the hours mean that I can't come in early or stay late (due to nursery times) so I am unable to take on more if others are struggling (which I would expect would be required if I wanted to progress)
There is an initial 3 month probation and an extended probation until the 6 month mark.

Well my dilemma is do I stick it out when I feel like I won't be able to progress how I wanted to.
Also, we'd like to try for a second child within the next 6 months and I don't want to start trying while in probation so I feel I either need to stay put and start trying once probation is over or I need to leave soon so that I have enough time to settle and get through probation at a new job.

I also find my current hours draining and really feel if I was working a bit closer to nursery/home and worked slightly better hours it would make life so much easier.

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BanKimoon · 30/04/2015 11:59

It's so hard to decide what's best isn't it? Do you think things will settle down as you get more into the swing of things? I found the first few moths after DS started nursery were very hard and juggling it all makes everything seem 10x harder.

Essentially, I'd say if you're going to TTC again, do you really want to move into another job where you'll be back to square one in terms of getting through probation before you start trying? If you're planning to take maternity leave, maybe it will be good to do at least 9 months in the job, get more of a feel for it, then maternity leave will be a break which will allow you to take stock and work out if you want to go back?

Roxie85 · 30/04/2015 15:15

Exactly my dilemma. I don't mind my job other than its exhausting but I guess it isn't the wonderful job I hoped I'd get (although who has that) I ummed and ahhed about taking it but in the end I wanted to leave the last place before I got back into the rut I had been in before mat leave and the offer was a good one.
I work full time and start at 8 but finish at lunch on Fridays. Nursery only opens at 7:30 so I drop her off as it opens and get her by 5:30pm but the hours prevent me putting in that extra effort which I feel I would need to. I took the job as they hinted about possible opportunities after 6 months but I don't think I'd be able to move forward with these hours.
I'm aware that I'd like to start ttc soonish but is it better to get settled somewhere else that I might want to go back to? I can't imagine working these hours after having a second child as my husband has a time consuming job and family are far away.
It seems easier to stay put but then I feel I'm taking advantage knowing what I know (I'd love to start ttc now but with the probation and me being in a bit of a bad place emotionally/mentally due to family distance and exhaustion I think it's best to wait) but then is this job contributing to that.

My god it's tough being a mum (working or stay at home)

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BanKimoon · 30/04/2015 15:57

Aww, it's so hard isn't it? Good luck deciding whatever you do! I had the opposite problem that I got a new job which I love and am now 12 weeks with number 2 - also feel guilty as I've only been in the job 7 months and I don't want to have to take another 9 months off and miss out on the good stuff. I genuinely don't think you can win!

TheRealMaryMillington · 30/04/2015 16:04

So will you give up the job and SAHP?

Can you afford that?

Is you medium term plan to work at all/part time/full time (With second child?)

To me it sounds like your Friday afternoons off/slightly compressed hours are partly causing the problem - could you not work over a full day Friday and reduce the pressure to be in places at certain times with so little slippage time?

Roxie85 · 30/04/2015 18:54

I expect I would go back full time if we had a second child for financial reasons but I'd love to go part time (maybe 3-4 days a week which I'd love to do now) Unfortunately it's a small company and it gets locked up come lunch time and what I do can rely heavily on other staff so if I was on my own I'd probably not be able to get much done anyway.
I wish I loved my job that much ban
I really wanted to have a job that would postpone children for a bit because I enjoyed it so much but this is just a bit better than the last one.

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