workplace bullying- report or just accept that its SHIT/UNFAIR

[workplacebully2015]

I will try and keep this brief.

In 2014 an individual was bought in (internal) to facilitate our leadership team meetings. This individual interacted with me in a very negative way, to the extent I got quite depressed, ill and felt very bullied
I kept a diary throughout 2014 and noted every instance, including

1. being belittled in meetings
2. being humiliated/shamed in public, and on email
3. using their power and influence to run the business, and influence others against me
4. meetings felt like walking on ice, whatever you did- was wrong
5. all through this- leadership said very little Many others have reported being bullied by this person (they are widely disliked) however no one else has reported them.

Coming into 2015- they are now doing it to my colleague. When the colleague asserted herself (ie the way to handle bullies is to stick up to them!)- the bully then used her powers to transition my colleague off her account!

seeing my colleague be bullied has bought it all back, and I am very upset and worried. My company is very values led and this feels so so wrong.

However I feel they have such a toxic hold over our leadership, that complaining to HR (even with back up) will not achieve anything as this person is so well connected- they might use this to twist stuff. In faced, it might massively backfire.

any advice? Thanks for reading this far!!!!!!

Sounds like you have nothing to lose by reporting the whole situation to HR/your line manager and asking them to look I to it.

Would your colleague also make a complaint at the same time, do you know others who have factual instances to help?

Just leave. Get anther job. No one in HR will do anything.

thanks for comfirming my suspcions !

I never said anything when I was bullied, but seeing it happen to another person it vile- and toxic

Thanks- am seeking advice from a senior manager that is also leaving as value his opinion

Are you in a union? or do you have an employee assistance programme number you could call for free advice?

I had the same experience in my last job for 7 years. The bullying person always came up smelling of roses. I did report it. waste of time. Over time it destroyed my confidence in my abilities and resulted in depression and finally unemployment.

Well done for keeping a record of everything. speak to a union or ACAS or EAP for advice and take it from there. If no change results from whatever you do, life is too short, just get out of there.

I was bullied and racially discriminated against and basically nothing was done despite going to HR because the person in question was my boss and obv very senior. They had the audacity to try and spin it round like it was my fault that I must of done or said something to provoke the response - my lesson learnt from it all was to not bother raising it and just leave the company.

I suggest that you make a note of specific issues, rather than general comments like 'belittled' and 'humiliated', although I realise they are valid in themselves. So that you're saying '* said my idea was not even worth considering, which left me feeling belittled' etc.

Hope you can get it sorted.

wow, so appreciate the honesty here. Looks like we have a long way to go on bulllying

especially when it comes from a senior person

karma is a bitch, lets hope these nasty people get their come uppance. in general, they do.

so agree with what people said around how it undermines confidence

thanks agin everyone

Tbh if this bully is highly valued by the leadership then I'd try to get an internal move or find a new job elsewhere. Ime if you challenge it through HR then other senior managers will ally with the bully and you'll come out with some kind of performance plan (not necessarily for poor performance) and end up leaving anyway.

Once you've resigned, discuss with HR then, as you may help others if your experience is recorded by them.

I'm being bullied by someone very senior at work. Basically I have noone to report her to apart from HR.

I can't do it, I'm in the union and I still can't do it. She has the ability to make my life hell on earth, even more so than what she's doing and I don't doubt that she would. I will leave as soon as I can.

been there, done it, and my advice is take your skills and leave and join a competitior. you will never get HR to discredit her. Karma will get her in the end though.

Bullies like this are often very charismatic and present themselves as highly valuable to senior management.

Just leave. Find a job elsewhere. Encourage the other people who have been bullied to do likewise.

The company will start to suffer when they find they can't retain talented people, so eventually perhaps things may change, but that's not your problem or your battle to fight. You don't owe this company anything. Walk away.

I watched a programme recently about psychopaths and it didn't surprise me that many bullying bosses fit the criteria of psychopathic behaviour