Do I get bad Karma for wishing a bad accident would happen to my boss?

[Redlorry75]

I am 31wks PG and on the second full week of sick leave due to high BP.

My boss phoned me 3 times today to ask how I do stuff, such as report etc. These were not questions I could answer in a sentence or two, but he literally had me on the phone for over an hour while I talked him through a process step by step!

I had to explain to him that my MW actually want to monitor me midweek next week when I have returned to work to see if it has affected my BP. When I told him this he jokingly asked what I was implying? He just doesnt seem to get it!

I have been on here before about him, but today was the proverbial straw that broke the camels back. I am now going to go to my union and ask advice. As I do not want to return to work to face him before my baby is due in case it send my BP sky high! Does his behaviour sound like harrassment or am I letting hormones get the better of me?

You are clearly indispensable and the poor man is getting high bp of his own thinking about how he's going to manage without you!
Seriously - you must think of the health of your baby - I rushed around like a mad thing with my first one, didn't leave work till 36 weeks even though I had a job that involved driving 30,000 miles a year, then wondered why I was flat on my back for 3 weeks with high bp that ended up as pre-eclampsia.
Take it easy, get caller display and don't answer the phone if it's your boss. When you have the baby you will suddenly wonder why you ever thought work was so important.

I've had this with a boss too.

I got signed off work for a fortnight after having pretty involved abdominal surgery. She rang me several times to "ask how I was...oh, and while you're on the phone, how do I x,y or z" - usually something like "attach a file to an email" - you know, top level high-drama stuff...

I went back to work after this fortnight, still in loads of pain. The woman who'd been doing my work had been shown how to do it by my boss (after I'd shown her how to do it correctly) and it was all wrong, so I had to do it all again - important "OAPs won't get money they're depending on to pay bills and buy food" type work too.

There was loads of other stuff - boss basically not doing her job, handing everything to me, belittling me at every opportunity, etc, etc.

So I was signed off work again, because I'd not recovered from my operation and I couldn't face her bullying behaviour and when I rang her to tell her she asked me to send in my handwritten notes from a meeting I'd attended so she could get the minutes typed up (I said I'd do them and email them to her though because it's nigh on impossible to type up minutes from a meeting you've not been at), then she asked if it was OK if she could ring me "if she got stuck on anything".

Knowing she got stuck on opening the bloody front door of the office, I said that the doctor had said I should have a complete break from work in order to recover from my operation. "Oh, right. So is work stressing you out?" she asked. Well, a bit, I said - because it was more polite than saying "No, you are, you old witch, now fuck off and let someone competent do your bloody job!".

When I returned to work, she'd removed duties from my job description (although it transpired she still expected me to do them...), been slating me to anyone who would listen and had removed a promised pay rise because it had been based on various duties she'd now removed from my job description (even though I was still expected to do these things).

I'm sorry. That doesn't help you much. But it was very cathartic. Thank you!

I'd say he's being unreasonable contacting you. I know that feeling of "OMG, is that her phoning?" when the phone rings - it's horrible and stressy.

Doesn't work suck?

I fucking hate it.

I resigned from that one, EIS... Had no job lined up. Was bricking it. Then got my current job, which I love, thank goodness!

You seriously need to screen your calls.

If you allow this to continue, without saying anything then your boss will think it's fine to carry on.

Once the baby arrives you'll not have the time or energy to deal with endless questions.

You can start maternity leave early.

Have spoken to my union (changed my name BTW), who are a tower of strength, as long as I have the guts to actually speak thier words to my boss.
They have advised that I get signed off until 36 weeks and then start my ML, as opposed to starting maternity leave now, since if not for the pressure from my boss - who is panicking about my absence from the office, I would happily go in to work with a smile and a song in my step!
Might just wait until I have been back for a couple of days next week as if by proving my point.

Good for you! Assuming that you return to your job after maternity leave, you need to spell out to your boss the effect he had on you. Hopefully he will learn from it & not treat anyone else like that in future - he needs to understand that he's a fault, not you.

I think that if your boss is calling you at home whilst you are signed off and it is making you unhappy then he could be done for harassment - screen his calls through an answerphone or just don't answer - don't speak to him. He does not have any right to do this to you. Definitely get signed off sick then take maternity leave from week 36. I think I said this on your other thread but I worked until 40 weeks to appease a difficult boss like yours - I got no thanks whatsoever and in fact, whilst on maternity leave she e mailed me at home and said what an inconvenience my maternity leave was and how I'd put my colleages under considerable pressure. I ended up having to get the union involved ! In my experience these types of people don't change when you have a child/pregnant, if anything, they get more demanding. Do what is best for you and your baby - don't bother going in again as this chap sounds an idiot and he is not worth it. Enjoy the last weeks of your pregnancy - I certainly intend to this time around.