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Help needed making Career change decision

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SS2104 · 02/10/2014 21:45

Hi I'm in desperate need of some good advice!

I have worked for the same company for almost 10 years, which majority of my time was working in the same department, but I worked my way up the career ladder from a clerical position to a team manager. I was a team manager for roughly 5 years and really enjoyed working with people, I was highly confident in my role and knew the processes inside and out. I received excellent feedback on my performance every year and was seen as top talent in my location.

My husband and I decided to start a family alomost two years ago and my priorities completely changed. I realised I had found myself and loved every moment of motherhood. When having conversation with my employers before returning to work from a year off on maternity leave, it was very clear I wouldn't be able to return to my old position on flexible working hours, I asked for 3 days, but minimum they would offer was 4 days in a new role, which I accepted as financially couldn't afford to give up my job.

I have been back for 10 months and still struggling in my new role and have since realised I was in a complete comfort bubble in my old career. My new role requires a lot more mentally and I'm not sure I am suited to the challenge or the type of work. I have started thinking about perhaps starting for baby number two, but also tied with whether I should leave my job and look for something part time 2.5 days maximum, closer to home (current job involves two hours commuting) and take a lower position with less responsibility. Meaning I can take a career break and enjoy watching and being a big part of my childrens life in their younger years, then perhaps restudy or return to climbing the ladder. But I need help as every day this goes round and round in my head and I'm scared I will make the wrong choice.

Sorry for the essay, but I couldn't think of a shorter way to ask for advice without giving you the full picture.

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gg1234 · 07/10/2014 23:14

I think with the type of demanding job motherhood is first of all get a job as you said of lower responsibilities and something nearer to home .but don't leave your career you never know what happens in life .just out of shear some bad experiences I am saying ??

IdaTheFossil · 08/10/2014 08:35

I'm a bit confused. On the one hand you talk about financially needing to work, when you only have one lot of childcare costs. Then you talk about dropping down to only 2.5 days, when you have two children to care for.

You seem to be taking all this gear-change on yourself. What is DH's contribution?

nickyjack4 · 08/10/2014 10:51

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daisydee43 · 12/10/2014 16:39

hi im in a low challenging job and pg with dc2 but god do i long for a career job feel like im losing my intellegence. love my family life but having done this for 4 years im desperate for a proper job. try looking for part time work in ur field more locally. not easy but possible Smile

SS2104 · 13/10/2014 12:02

At the time of returning to work I financially couldn't afford to leave my job and go with something part time, however now I am in a better position finacially having reduced my monthly outgoings and my mum has retired from work so is able to assist with childcare, reducing my childcare costs. Things would definitely be tighter if I reduced the number of days I worked, but scope in the future for husband to earn more money.

Daisy Dee are your younger ones in school now is that why you are ready to take on a more challenging role?

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Norfolkandchance1234 · 13/10/2014 12:10

Ok my advice is do not leave this job under any circumstances as you have been there for a long time you do not want to start in a new company when you are feeling tired and not up to it, you will not be looked after as well at all even though you may not think it now. I would see your doctor and get some sick leave for a while, stress, exhaustion etc take some time off and then go back refreshed giving yourself time to think about it all.

daisydee43 · 13/10/2014 13:27

ss2104 - no kids not in school yet but im sure this will help. dd is 2.5 and im pg with dc2. just not cut out for sahm need something bit more intellectual, feel like im wasting away

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