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Work related stress.

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Lizziemae · 02/10/2014 13:12

I am away from work at the moment because of anxiety. On Tuesday I had a huge panic attack at work (I went to the loo and managed to calm myself down) but since then I have been feeling awful - my heart is racing, I am shaky, i can't breath properly and I have pins and needles in my arms and legs. The cause is my manager and the amount of work that she gives me to do. Or rather not the amount of work but the deadlines she imposes, and because all the while she is micro-managing, constantly checking.

Until two weeks ago I used to arrive at work 45 minutes early - to get a cuppa, make a plan for the day, make sure my pencils are sharp etc. But it got so that as soon as I got there, before I'd even taken my coat off she was out of her office asking for something to be done. So now I sit in my car until 5 minutes before my official starting time. She interrupts my breaks and my lunch time to discuss work. I never used to mind but the more I see how badly paid I am, the more I resent it, particularly as I am not paid for my breaks.

She doesn't realise how complex and time consuming tasks are. She is very good at delegating and spends most of her day thinking up ill-thought out ideas which I have to put into practise. She has no project management skills and gives only an outline of an idea with the sparest of instructions. She comes up with 2 or 3 of these everyday which I am trying to juggle alongside the rest of my job, which is student welfare. I feel like I end the week with a set of unfinished tasks and find myself being so harried that I make mistakes.

Two weeks ago I went to see a much more senior person because I think I am not paid for the responsibility that I shoulder. I am on secondment from another job with same manager. Initially this was for 6 months but it's now 18 months later and I don't have a contract for this seconded job. It is a promotion from the other work I did and i feel that if i kick up any sort of fuss she will just take away the job, although for the small amount of extra money I get for the stress I'm have I wonder if its worth it.

The senior person that I went to see said to me "I know you do a lot of x's work" ( x being manager) and he said he was going to look into my pay grade etc. My manager doesn't have a good reputation among other staff (those she manages and those she doesn't) - to give you some idea she is known amongst other things as "the smiling assassin". She is very nice to my face - constantly asking if I want tea etc and she also confides in me about difficulties she has with other managers, and I find this puts me in a difficult position because I know how she manipulates and dumps people in it. But I just cant trust her. One member of our team has just left due to enduring MH problems which he blames her for causing. I feel like I'm going the same way. I don't know what to do - I love the students, my colleagues, even the work which is interesting, challenging etc. What I can't cope with are her impossible demands, that I can't trust her, her ill-thought out projects (which would be ok if they were done properly). It's not like I work in a high-pressure environment - I work in FE, for goodness sake!

Any advice/thoughts would be very much appreciated.

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PumpkinBones · 02/10/2014 19:11

It really frustrates me when in situations like this, the difficult manager's seniors KNOW that there is a problem but don't address it! It puts you in an awful
Position, hoping that their knowledge of the situation will mean they will do something, whilst they secretly hope that it will just go away or that you will magically deal with it!!

I have a manager who does similar things with half thought projects - I have taken to going back to them with the bit of information that I have and saying basically I need more information and you need to make a decision on XYZ before I can do this piece of work and I have to also complete XYZ, so what is the priority?
Before I would have just got in and done it and filled in the gaps and while I am capable of doing this, I realise that it causes more problems - it was VERY difficult for me to do it at first though. I also suffer from General anxiety and panic attacks, so I understand how awful you are feeling. I would recommend going to your doctor first of all. Then I would go back to the senior manager. They HAVE to deal with this situation. Cake

haveanotherdoughnut · 02/10/2014 20:20

My advice is to get away from her as fast as you can. She's not going to change. Sorry, not sure how easy that is in our position.

flowery · 03/10/2014 08:34

I agree that the chances of her changing sufficiently are slim, and if she is your manager regardless of whether you are 'on secondment' or not, it's not as if you can ask to be released from your secondment.

Are you looking elsewhere?

Guitargirl · 03/10/2014 08:44

My manager is the queen of the vague instructions. She is capable of talking to me for half an hour but what comes out of her mouth is a load of management speak about 'strategy'. When you actually pin her down to what it is she wants you to do it's nearly impossible. I have started following up every verbal instruction with an email to clarify what it is she wants. If I am not able to articulate in written words what she is asking for then that means there is a problem with the instruction. When that happens I ask her to write it down and she usually can't Confused.

She also eats into any time I make to go in early or stay late and I am not able to eat lunch in peace unless I leave the building. My main coping strategy is to work from home as often as I can. Is that an option for you?

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