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Snide comments at work - how would you deal with this?

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BerylStreep · 23/09/2014 09:43

A friend asked me for advice, and I don't know how to advise her. I have tried to change the details to make them unidentifiable, but would really value some views on here.

She is senior manager in a private company employing approx 100 people. One of the middle managers posted on the company Facebook (a fairly innocuous post about some initiative they are doing), but at the end made some comment about

The post is visible to the entire organisation, but not to clients.

She doesn't cultivate a jokey persona at work, isn't friends with this individual, and there is no history of animosity. He isn't a direct report to her, and she is in a specialised field, so he couldn't be angling for her job. She has no idea what has prompted this, but feels it is a deliberate attempt to undermine her and to besmirch her standing within the company.

My friend raised it with her boss and HR, who have basically put the ball in her court, saying 'what do you want to do, do you want to raise a grievance?'.

If it was me, I would have spoken to him immediately, asked him wtf he thought he was doing, and told him if it ever happened again I would be making a formal complaint, but I'm quite arsey direct, and I work in the public sector, so I think it is quite a different culture with a lot more job security.

Part of me thinks it is wrong to put the ball in her court. It was an inappropriate and unprofessional comment, and a misuse of the work system, and I would think that the senior management team would want to address it to make sure a culture of snide digs at management didn't develop. Given this individual is a middle manager, people will be looking to him for a cue as to what is acceptable.

How would you suggest my friend should deal with it?

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flowery · 23/09/2014 10:04

Well, I think if your friend is a senior manager, yes she ought to at least as a first step handle it in the way you suggest. Part of being a senior manager involves being able to hold your own and call people on unacceptable behaviour, particular people who are more junior than you.

I don't think her standing within the company and in the eyes of this person would be helped by either her boss or HR pulling him up on it on her behalf. It would make her look weak if I'm frank.

I think her boss ought to have given her that advice as well, rather than asking if she wanted to raise a grievance, although that is a perfectly valid question.

BerylStreep · 23/09/2014 17:36

Flowery, thanks, as ever.

I think the worry is that it is a relatively small company, and my friend was concerned that if she addressed it herself, then the owner may not back her up. I agree with your view though that it could make her look weak by not addressing it directly.

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