I feel like I am being bullied in my workplace...please advise me!

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I work in a fairly small company, and really feel like one of the directors has a problem with me and it's causing me a lot of stress.

Some of the things that have been happening are:

1. He gives me evil looks from the window when he sees me approaching work.
2. Calls me "Old Girl" at every opportunity (sometimes he actually growls it) - I'm 39, he's probably about 59!
3. Stomping around the office in a very intimidating manner.
4. Trying to make out that every little thing is my fault - even stuff that happens when I'm on annual leave (I'm actually very conscientious and will admit any errors and look on them as learning opportunities, but won't be made a scapegoat).
5. He sped up and swerved his car towards me when he passed me on the forecourt recently (if he had slipped and hit me, I could have been injured!) and as I looked at him incredulously, he gave me a filthy look like it was my fault!
6. On Thursday this week, he actually waved his fist in my face, about 1cm away from my nose. He's lucky he didn't hit me as that would have really escalated things.
7. He has full on temper tantrums if things aren't going his way, then takes it out on the rest of us.

I really love my job, but I don't enjoy this treatment.
I know that to deal with bullies, you have to stand up to them, and I have been doing this wherever possible, but I just don't get what this achieves for him.
I feel so utterly disrespected.
I am only part-time, thankfully, I need the remaining time to recover from each day spent there.
It's affecting my sleep, and my anxiety is sky-high.

My boss really likes him, so there's no point even going to him.

Really need some advice on this please, what can I do next?

I think he may be short sighted. That would explain most of it.

And you may be a little oversensitive.

The fist in the face is odd. Can you supply more detail?

I've thought of a few more things that are going on and will list them below.
The 'fist' incident happened when I was sat at my desk filing, minding my own business. He walked past me, having just washed up his lunchbox, and lunged at me with the fist, as if doing a right hook, but only just missed my face. There was no prior communication beforehand, it was completely unprovoked. I was left feeling bewildered. I am polite and courteous at work and in no way deserve that sort of treatment.

Here's the extras I've thought of since my last post:

1. He slags off a lot of the staff behind their backs when they're not around to defend themselves, usually pointing out their failings or his perceived faults.
2. He's very blamey - everything is 'someone's fault' and he likes to make sure everyone knows about it too.
3. Says "good morning" to everyone except me.

10. If I'm trying to discuss work stuff with him, he'll start tapping on his phone & ignoring what I'm saying, so that I have to wait. 11. He's just intimidating & passive aggressive, most of the staff under him seem really unhappy. 12. Other staff have commented on his rudeness.

He is completely hatstand, isn't he? All of these incidents are worth putting on record, so that your employers can build up a picture of his misbehaviour. Do you have an HR department?

I don't think there's an HR, as I work for a franchise which has two directors. One's nice, one's nasty...

www.whybulliesbully.com

Sounds textbook to me. I went through something dreadful - I would keep a diary and perhaps seek outside help - union or coaching or counselling to strengthen yourself

also LTB (the bastard in this context being an abusive job if you see what I mean)

Thanks for the website link, I've had a good look.
I also started reading Andrea Adams, and have approached a friend who works in HR (not within my company) to ask what can be done.