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Am i doing the right thing

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missboo · 21/09/2006 10:04

just landed a nearly perfect part time job, which is everyother saturday.My DH is fine with this but my mum and sisters think it is to soon and to far away, as i said nearly perfect!
My DS is 8 months old and he will be looked after by no better person than my DH, the job is about 80 mins from where i live.

so am i doing the right thing or dont know if im to worried about what other people think?

Help

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anniediv · 21/09/2006 10:09

I think if you're happy then it's the right thing. DH and I both work, but make sure our shifts are opposite to each other so we split child care 50/50. Loads of people tell me 'isn't he good'. No-one tells me I'm good when I have them when he's at work!!

I say GO FOR IT.

NAB3 · 21/09/2006 10:29

It is no ones business but you and the baby's father. Why shouldn't he look after his child for a day? Equal parents!!!!!!

JackieNo · 21/09/2006 10:32

Agree - it's nobody's business except you and the baby's father - and what better way for them to bond than spending an entire day together every couple of weeks, for whatever reason. Go for it.

scootermum · 21/09/2006 11:37

Hi,
It will proably do you good to get back into work and have some you time where you think about soemthing other than the baby.And it will do your dh good to have some one on one with the baby too.
Ignore your FIL.No offence but they seem a bit dark ages..tell them about me-they will be outraged!-I go to work an hour and half away 4 days a week and have to leave dd with childminder for about 8 and half hours a day.(I hate it,and till this week have cired pretty much all the way to work but dont tell them that bit-it will make it less convincing!)

I think working one day a week would be ideal and will do no one any harm at all!

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missboo · 21/09/2006 17:12

Thanks everyone.

Imust say kinda looking forward to it in a selfish way going to do this saturday but just half a day i know DH looking forward to it not sure if thats because specail time with DS or nice time without me..

scootermum however do you manage maybe still not into a good rountine hopefully by working might get a few brain cells back.

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Judy1234 · 22/09/2006 22:01

It's insulting to fathers when people suggest they can't look after their own loved children. Of course you should do it. It will also give him close one to one time with the child too. Ask them why the same argument doesn't apply to your husband who deserts the child 5 days a week - isn't that "too soon".

Rookiemum · 23/09/2006 11:31

I know someone who has started back for 1 day per week at weekend and DH looks after their 6 month old DD. Everyone loves the arrangement and it means extra money coming in. Sounds perfect to me.

foxtrot · 23/09/2006 11:54

Go for it - if it doesn't work out, you can always give it up.

katyjo · 23/09/2006 12:23

Hi Missboo, My ds is six months and I have just started working a half day saturday each week, I love it, my dh loves spending the time with ds and ds loves spending time with his dad. It is win win all round!! Do what you think is right and don't listen to anyone else. X

TitianRed · 23/09/2006 12:59

Go for it, Missboo! I went back to work 3 days a week when each baby was 5 months old and, though it's hard, it's been so good in many ways for all of us. Both children are really well adjusted and sociable and they have a Mummy who is giving them high quality time in the days she is with them (plus the extra cash comes in handy too). Go your own way and don't listen to anyone else - it's your life! Good luck!

Twinkie1 · 23/09/2006 13:11

Do what you feel is right for you and your state of mind.

I am going for an interview Tuesday to return to work in the city 2 days a week, DS will go into a nursery - which I think will be good for him (has brought speech on and made them eat a variety of things of a few of my friends kids) and DD will go to a friends after school until DH gets then when he gets home - in my view it is something that will keep me sane, allow myslef to earn some of my own money (although DH doesn't keep me short of a bob or too I would like to at least be able to purchase his Xmas and B'day pressies with my own money) and give me some long lost confidence and self esteem back - as well as give me a little bit of a break - after 2 years I feel as though my head is slowly leaking the brain power that I once had and I want to be an adult again and do adult things outside of the home without my kids.

It may sound selfish and I am sure thats what your doubters think but we all need a little bit of time and space of our own and to function as adults away from our kids. And for all you who will no doubt jump on me - I love being a SAHM and have done it for 2 years but I need me time, me space and to use my brain as I am sure you do Missboo.

Good Luck.

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