griveance meeting

[ThePrisonerOfAzkaban]

I've got a major grievance with my boss, currently going though the process. However I've heard back from the hr rep, stating that I am only able to take a work colleague, the grievance is also about the colleagues so that's out, or a trade union, which I haven't got one. So my partner is unable to attend. Also with the grievance part of it means I am unable to leave to my house on my own due to major anxiety, so it's been suggested that it's at my house. I don't want my boss coming to my house, it hasn't got disabled access anyway which he needs. What can I do

Is there any colleague you could have there, as a witness/to take notes etc?

How about a teleconference?

Or is there a neutral place you could have the meeting? I wouldn't want it at home either.

Would you feel comfortable going to a neutral venue like a hotel coffee lounge? Your partner could drive you and stay close should you need to take a break for support. Are you friendly with anyone from another department who could be your witness?

Sorry just re read your post. Is the grievance about your boss? If so he shouldn't be hearing it.

It is ACAS guidelines to be able to be accompanied only by a Colleague / Trade Union Rep or Trade Union official at a grievance meeting.
If possible though, the meeting should be with another senior manager who isn't the one who the grievance involves - is that the case?
It's fair enough to not want your boss in your house, could your DP come with you to your workplace and just sit outside the meeting room?

Would the HR rep be in the meeting too?

Your boss should not be at the meeting if grievance relates to him. It should be his boss plus hr.

Request neutral location such as hotel or conference centre. Partner could go with you although they cannot attend the meeting with you. You can be accompanied by any colleague, is there nobody at all you could ask?

It's a very small company, one boss, 4 other members of staff, 2 of which I've never a conversation with and part of the grievance is an issue with the other staff member. HR is a private company hr who have brought in by boss just for this matter.

You can still ask one of the other two colleagues to sit with you in the meeting and take notes. They can refuse but it might be worth asking, just so you're not alone.

Ask for a neutral venue as suggested by others, a private meeting room at a hotel or similar, if you have no facility to meet privately at your normal workplace. Get your partner to bring you and wait outside.

you could always ask if your partner or a friend could attend - they are not obliged to allow it but might. it's in their interests too that everything gets resolved as quickly and painlessly as possible so helping you deal with it as well as possible makes sense.

when I've heard grievances I've allowed outside friends to be the accompanying person - my only restriction is no lawyers.