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Would you change your child's nursery for this reason?

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LadyP · 01/04/2004 18:04

DS goes to a very good nursery where he is very happy.

However, having a discussion with my sis ( she meant well), she reckons I should put DS in the nursery at his school (well, the one I want to send him to), so that he can establish friendships with children with whom he will be going through his primary education, rather than sending him to primary school 'cold' so to speak.

My gut feeling tells me to leave him where he is, but what would others do, or have done?

Thanks

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hercules · 01/04/2004 18:07

Leave him where he is iiwy. Ds went to private nursery full time near my work and so didnt attend the nursery where most of the other kids in his school had but this made no difference to him settling into school and making friends. He aslo stayed friends with those from his nursey.

Hulababy · 01/04/2004 18:08

If he is happy I wouldn't move him. He is still learning social skills at the priavte nursery which will equip him to make friends once he starts school.

dinosaur · 01/04/2004 18:10

Agree with Hercules. We did have a split arrangement for DS1 so that he could go to the nursery attached to the school two days a week for one term, but he is a bit of a special case because he is on the autistic spectrum. However I do know lots of children who just carried on at their old nursery and then went straight into Reception and they all seem to be doing fine.

Thomcat · 01/04/2004 18:10

Leave him where he is is my opinion.
He's happy, doesn't need the disruption and will make friends easily as well as everyone else will at that age. They have a new best friend a week from the ages of 5 anyway don't they!!!

Slinky · 01/04/2004 18:52

If he is happy where he is then I would leave him.

Our school doesn't have an "attached nursery" so my children have all stayed at their private day nursery. Both children who are at school currently went into the school with no friends as there was no-one from the nursery going there - the nursery is the other side of town, whereas our school is our "catchment" school.

Both coped very well going into a strange environment - but the Reception teachers were very good at getting all the children to mix and make friends.

Found out today that my "baby" will be starting school on 6 September - she's fortunate as she will know 2 children when she starts - but I wouldn't be that bothered if she didn't TBH.

StripyMouse · 01/04/2004 18:54

How about keeping him where he is (as others say if he is happy, why upset the status quo) but try to get to know other local children in the area who will be in his class at school? Persuming your Primary school is local, is there any toddler gym clubs, swmming lessons or other activities locally, maybe weekend ones where parents and children meet up so that you can start to "bond". It is handy for you as well as your DS to meet and socialise with his peers and their parents as it could make the transition easier. That wasy you would have the best of both worlds while not disturbing him and his settled routine.

carla · 01/04/2004 19:01

Leave him where he is. DD1 went to a primary school that no-one from her nursery went to, and, after initial settling in problems, loves it there now. I took dd2 out of Montessori nursery, into state nursery, and we both hated it. So now I've removed her and am just enjoying having her around until September. Incidentally, have bumped into numerous mums from dd2's 'no go' nursery who are going to the same school as Alex, and we're going to meet up over the summer hols.

Stick to your guns, girl!

carla · 01/04/2004 19:03

PS meant to say our primary school doesn't have an attached nursery either, hence the problem.

jampot · 01/04/2004 19:28

I'd leave him where he is too. He'll make friends at school so quickly and there's bound to be others in the same boat as him in his class.

kiwisbird · 01/04/2004 19:42

I never bothered and DS fitted in well with his new school straight away...

elliott · 01/04/2004 19:42

You know him best. Do you think it would make a big difference to him when he starts reception, if he had already got to know other kids? Or is he likely to settle relativley easily anyway?

twiglett · 01/04/2004 20:43

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berries · 02/04/2004 10:32

I had the same problem, but left children at the nursery. Made no difference when they started school. Each of my dds had 1 child from their nursery who went to the same school, but ended up playing with a completely different set of people. IME 70 - 80% of kids didn't go to the attached nursery anyway, adn some of the ones who did couldn;t get into the school. DD (8) still regularly visits her 'best' friend from nursery who went to a diff school, and it's quite nice to have friends from different schools anyway.

WideWebWitch · 02/04/2004 11:29

I'd leave him if he's happy. I can see where she's coming from but I wouldn't move him. My ds went to the playgroup attached to his new school twice and then we gave up since a) it was crap and b) they were all girls at the playgroup and it wasn't likely they were going to be his best friends at school anyway. So when he started he didn't know anyone and it was fine. A year later we moved to a completely new city so he had to start in year 1 not knowing anyone and again it was fine. He has lots of friends now. If your son is reasonably sociable I can't see it being a problem.

WideWebWitch · 02/04/2004 11:30

Just read the other posts and we all agree!

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LadyP · 02/04/2004 17:46

Thanks all.

As I said, my gut feeling was to leave him where he is and you have all validated that .

He is a very sociable, outgoing little boy, so hopefully not going to the nursery will pose no problem when he starts school.

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