Should I take this job?

[Desperate2012]

Hi,
Soliciting advice on a WWYD or do you have this experience basis..

So I work at a fantastic and flexible employer but am woefully underpaid. I'm likely to get a promotion before year end, but will still be woefully underpaid!

I've got a job offer from a small consultancy offering literally double my current salary BUT I need to travel about 2 days per week, meaning we would need a nanny/more flexible childcare and DH would need to step up. Plus, I'd see my son less.

However, equally we would be much better off as a family and could get rid of some debts and fix our s*hole of a house...

WWYD?!?

Double salary sounds difficult to turn down.

Will DH step up?

"DH would need to step up,"

I suppose it depends on why he's not stepping up at the moment. Is it because he can't, or that you already have it covered so he hasn't felt the need to?

Good points both. He works in central London so commutes 1hr each way. Also, at the mo I earn substantially less and his bonus structure means we've invested out family "time" in his job. This one would make us more equal, but equally he values his position as the family earner- the status quo. Plus his work environment does not respect making compromises to support family, so there is a real chance he'd be penalised for coming in at 9 and leaving at 5, even if it was only once a week or so. At the mo I travel once a week and he drops off those days, and gets stick about it.

Gets stick from whom? His boss, or some young, free and single pipsqueak who has an eye on his job?

I guess is he willing to take the flack?

It is the only way things will change, but appreciate he might not feel like "fighting the good fight".

Would a formal flexible working application make it feel any better for him? In that it would be done officially as opposed to been seen as getting in late/leaving early?

What about the actual job? Does the thought enthuse you? Did you relish the additional travel etc?

It can be soul destroying working in an underpaid job.

I think the new role sounds exciting if you can make it work.

how old is your son?
what would your working hours be like?

maybe an au pair + nursery would be better option for you so dropping off/pick up will be stress free?