Stitched myself up

[LaceyLitch]

Basically I really, really hate my job. The thought of going to work makes me feel sick. I dread it and spend the hours before it counting down til I am forced to leave the house. On bad days I feel physically exhausted and keep going to the toilet discreetly to cry throughout my shift. It is not specific to the job so much but the industry, which is the only one I've ever worked in, so getting a new job won't answer the problem. I really need to go back to school/re-train, which I am looking into.

Anyway, today I really did not want to be at work and considered ringing in sick but managed to drag myself in. When I got there I realised I had left something at home which I needed to do my job, told my line manager I needed to get home to get it and he was quite angry and called me a timewaster and sent me home to get it (would take me about 20 mins to get there and back). On the way home decided I couldn't put up with going to work tonight so decided I would not return to my shift.

My work called about and 1hr later and left a voicemail which I didn't listen to. About 3 hours later I rang and said I was knocked over by a car when I was on my way home as I was rushing and didn't check the road before I crossed, that I went to hospital and I have a sprained wrist and concussion and not to work for a couple of days. Manager was sympathetic etc but asked did I get a discharge form from the hospital to which I replied no (last 2 times I've been I didn't get anything). He said I needed proof I'd been to give to HR? I just said oh yeah sure no problem.

Now what do I do?? I know this is all my own fault and doing and probably people have no sympathy for me but I need to resolve this without being found out or having to quit. I don't know what to do? Please be kind x

Sorry, cross posted.

A few years ago I did the same as you OP, I used to temp and somedays I would get as far as sitting on the bus and not be able to face going in and so would turn round and come home. I gave a few dodgy excuses for my no-shows.

I agree with others above, get yourself a new job ASAP. And then try and look at what you aren't happy with in your life/career and start making plans to change it. Maybe the situation you have got yourself into is he springboard you needed to start making some changes.

Also if I should quit now, how should I do it? I do not want to reveal the lie?

I think you're kidding yourself if you think they don't already know about the lie.

So what should I say then?

Do you need to say anything? You just do a standard resignation letter.

Er, truth? You need to see a GP about your mental health as you are not coping with your job, you don't think you are up to performing duties you were hired to do, and think it's best for both parties if you resign immediately.

OP. You need to see a GP and tell them everything you have just told us. Your situation will not improve unless you do something about it.
If you continue without seeking help then each job will end the same way.
It is not a healthy way to live and eventually it may spill over in to your relationship.

In regards to the job send in a resignation letter today stating 'with immediate affect' and maybe an apology for the short notice and the lying.

Hope you can sort it out OP.

Op call the doctors say it's an emergency and tell the GP what's gone on and can you be signed off for two weeks while you look for another job. Doctor can put down stress as the reason you don't have to go into detail with your employer. You just call up say you've been signed off for two weeks stress or whatever. They cannot grill you anymore and if they do, get to hr. Good luck you'll be fine

I believe from OPs posts, she is still in a probationary period. They already have more than enough reason to dismiss her as she has an unauthorised absence and is unable to provide evidence normally associated with her "excuse". If you got knocked over by a car and went to a&e, police would have been called to report the accident and you would be able to provide info on other driver (min). If it was a hit and run, police would be involved. So not having discharge papers from a&e is a bit of neither here nor there as you would have many other ways of proving your whereabouts had you actually been you know. Hit by a car.

Just go into work. Face your employers and tell them you have no discharge papers; that you weren't given any. You have started this lie; so I personally would continue it.

If they give you a hard time walk away; finish your soft and then the next day hand in your notice and say you felt upset at how they'd spoken to you.

Don't panic; what's done is done. It was stupid, but it's a lesson. Find yourself something else and visit your gp

Maybe you should just confess to work that you told a lie and apologise. I can't really see any other way out of this one if they keep insisting on proof that you were in hospital. And then look for a new job. Or if you can afford it go back and do some training for a job you would enjoy.

I know it was a daft thing you did but you were desperate and unhappy. Hope you get things sorted out.

OP Please see a GP and get a referral for counselling as it sounds like you've had a rough few years, which isn't helping your work situation. If you keep doing this, you'll soon find yourself unemployable.

I can't offer any advice re your current work problem (except to try and go back in time and not lie to your employers about the hospital - you know they can ring the hospital and check whether you were there don't you?).
Best of luck for the future.

Sorry, last sentence in first paragraph should read 'If you keep behaving the way you are at work, you'll soon find yourself unemployable.'

You really need to resign and be honest with your partner or you need to face work and get over it!

Agree with zumby - tell them you don't have papers, were in too much of a muddle to get them, and they will have to put this down to unpaid leave (which it sounds like they will anyway).

Then see this for the wake up call that it is - get to the GP to get signed off for a bit and DO something about your situation.

for you. It's horrible feeling like you do. I remember getting a bit of a tummy ache and thinking "Oooh! maybe that'll be appendicitis and I'll get a couple of weeks off work!" You know something's badly wrong when you would prefer a painful, life-threatening medical condition to your own job. Thank God I am out of it now and love my job. I hope you manage to turn things round - all the best.

UPDATE:

Quit my job. Got a loan to cover living expenses for the next 6 months so BF is not put out. Started applying for estate agent jobs and turns out I'm a perfect fit. Had an interview yesterday and another Tuesday. Got a GP appointment on Monday.

Thank you all for your advice/guidance.

Good luck with your interviews next week. Hopefully will be all a new start for you now and no more porkies

Good luck. It sounds like you have had a rough time of it. Tell the GP everything you told us.

Well done Lacy hope it all works out for you.