Hi, I wondered if I might get a bit of advice please. (sorry its so long!)
I work in a middle management role, previous to going on mat leave there was me, managing my area, and I had an assistant, someone on a lower grade than me.
I hired my mat cover, (a young, single man), and then shortly after I went on mat leave my assistant left, so over the course of the 12 months, two different temps fulfilled this role.
A month before I was due to go back I met with my boss, who suggested that instead of hiring a new assistant, they keep my mat cover on and keep the two of us doing the job at the same grade. Now, this rang alarm bells for me, but I thought maybe it was worth a shot, as at least it took a little pressure off me being back at work full time with a toddler, I would have an equal as opposed to someone to manage.
Also in my absence they had implemented a whole new software system for the things I manage. So I was untrained and unfamiliar with this.
I was really unconfident back at work, and I'll admit a bit unfocused - I felt like there wasn't enough time in the day (my husband works away and I have no local family) and I was very stressed trying to get everything in my life done and keep things ticking along. It didn't help that my mat cover was not terribly forthcoming with helping me out on the new system, I think he assumed I should just crack on. All the work now flowed through him as I'd been off for so long, so I had little to do, and I think he was worried about appearing to 'delegate' work to me as we we're equal, but I also found it hard to constantly badger him for work and help on the new system as it made me feel so inadequate - this just knocked my confidence more.
Then my line manager told me someone had complained to her I was 'unfocused', which not only knocked my confidence more but upset me as I thought I got on well with my colleagues and they'd respect me enough to talk to me instead of telling tales to my boss.
So, four months after returning I was informed that the structure wasn't working, there were too many managers in the team, and that mine and my mat covers' roles were being changed to a manager and assistant (as before) and the same was happening with two other roles. Basically, we both had to apply for the manager's job, and whoever didn't get it they'd try to relocate within the company or it was redundancy. With confidence at an all-time low, I withdrew from applying for it as I felt it was inevitable I wouldn't get it. Me, limited on time and with no experience on the new system, or a young single guy, who could stay late etc who'd been working on it for 12 months - let's be honest here it's a no brainer. I couldn't face not getting my own job.
So now I'm being made redundant, I'm about to be unemployed for the first time in about 17 years.
I think I'm the victim of poor management decisions, but my family and husband think they're in the wrong and that I could bring a case - any advice or thoughts on this would be amazing!