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been offered new job - but should i refuse it?

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paddingtonbear1 · 26/08/2006 09:14

I currently work 3 1/2 days a week for a small IT firm. DD is now just over 3. Not been happy in the job for a while and have spoken to the boss, but as it's such as small firm there's not much he can do. Then a job agent rang out of the blue about a job for a big international IT firm. I went for 2 interviews and have basically been offered the job. It's just the kind of job for me - lots more variety and prospects etc without much travel - but it's FT! They can't drop the hours - I've asked. We are going to look at maybe DH reducing his hours instead until DD goes to school next sept, so she won't have to go into nursery 5 days, but I don't know whether to take the job anyway. Working in IT you need to keep your skills up to date, and mine aren't anymore so the longer I leave it, the harder it'll be if I had to get another job in the future - but in some ways this job has come too early! Not sure what to do, any advice? Has anyone been in this position? Sorry if this has been done before!

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SherlockLGJ · 26/08/2006 09:19

Too early to type a long reply, but I would take it.

WideWebWitch · 26/08/2006 09:26

I would take it.

LadyTophamHatt · 26/08/2006 09:30

I've been a SAHM since Ds1 was a baby, none of the Ds's have been in nursery so I'm surprised to find myslef saying....

Take the job!

If dh can reduce his hours it'll be a fantastic opportunity , but if he can't it's only for a yr.

Take it!

crunchie · 26/08/2006 09:30

me too! Your DD will be at school before you know it and nursery at over 3 isn't that bad - mine went and loved it!

WideWebWitch · 26/08/2006 09:30

Btw, I was a sahm for 5 years for ds but started working when dd was 4 months. Dh was a sahd for a while but since she's been 2 we've both worked ft oth. In 2 years when she goes to school your skills will be even more out of date won't they?

WideWebWitch · 26/08/2006 09:32

Meant to say at the end of that post that I wish I'd gone back to work sooner. I didn't partly because we were living in Devon at the time and there was no decently paid work there but I've only recently got a job paying what I think I'm worth. Had a stayed at work and developed my skolls I reckon my earnings would be a good 30% higher than they are now.

WideWebWitch · 26/08/2006 09:33

Had I stayed at work and developed my skills

that should have said

SherlockLGJ · 26/08/2006 09:34

Told you it was too early for long posts.

ScummyMummy · 26/08/2006 09:38

Sounds like you're keen and it's the right job for you so go for it. Dd will be fine either with dh or at nursery.

WideWebWitch · 26/08/2006 09:38

I've been up since 5am so it feels like about midday to me but my typing's still rubbish

liquidclocks · 26/08/2006 09:42

I get your dilemma completely, I'm in a similar career where a year out is like a death knoll for any furute opportunities. I was planning to stay at home when DS was born when literally a dream job came up that I couldn't refuse.

You've spent 3 years devoting special time to you DD, she's lucky compared to a lot of other kiddies, I say take the job - If it doesn't work for you, give up after 6 months, nothing lost. The only extra thing I'd say to check up on before you take it is to check out their policies for if DD is ill and you need to stay at home or if they havea flexible working policy. Perhaps they can't drop the hours but cold you do an extra hour a day then take an afternoon off?

tribpot · 26/08/2006 09:55

Agree with liquidclocks. I deliberately left the world of large IT firms when I got pregnant because I knew what 'full-time' and 'not much travel' can mean and it's not compatible with family life.

This sounds like a good opportunity for you, particuarly if dh can reduce his hours. But when dd goes to school, there will still be the after school hours and holidays to deal with, as well as illness.

Congratulations on being offered the job, hope it works out!

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paddingtonbear1 · 26/08/2006 12:20

Hi everyone, thanks so much for your replies! I think I will find out next week if we can do a combination of dd's nursery and dh reducing/moving his hours to cover. I got the impression from the interviews (both the managers were women with children) that they would be flexible where possible, and you can sometimes build up hours then leave early. I will check that out again though, thanks liquidclocks! If it works out I'll take the job and see how it goes.

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paddingtonbear1 · 31/08/2006 09:25

just thought I would update everyone - I have managed to arrange childcare (combination of dd's current nursery and dh shifting his hours a bit), and decided to take the job. Hope I've made the right choice! I'm just waiting for the written confirmation before I give my notice in. My boss is on holiday for 2 weeks so this could be interesting! I guess I will have to speak to the company secretary (small firm so I don't have a line manager, we're all under the MD), but she's now working from Ireland!

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