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Bullying at work

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MegCleary · 30/04/2014 16:20

If accused and found not guilty of bullying surely you cannot be asked to manage that person again?

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MegCleary · 30/04/2014 16:22

My friend is going out of her mind with worry.

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justtrunknotree · 30/04/2014 16:25

I was bullied and got sent to mediation with my bully boss as her punishment. She is still my boss ........

MegCleary · 30/04/2014 16:30

Had it gone through a formal investigation?

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flowery · 30/04/2014 17:57

Redeployment is often not a realistic possibility.

MegCleary · 30/04/2014 17:58

But if the accuser felt bullied surely she wouldn't want to go back.

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flowery · 30/04/2014 18:34

That's up to her, obviously she is free to resign if she wishes, and if she feels the company haven't addressed her complaint satisfactorily she might consider legal action.

MegCleary · 30/04/2014 18:42

But if her her complaint was fully investigated and found to have no basis, her manager was acting correctly. She just shouted bully as unhappy.

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flowery · 30/04/2014 18:58

Yes, and the grievance was accordingly upheld and no action taken against your friend.

She can ask to be redeployed if she doesn't want to manage the person but this may not be possible.

flowery · 30/04/2014 18:59

not upheld, sorry

MegCleary · 30/04/2014 19:13

Well the company will lose a nice person. So some one can accuse a person of bullying wreck their life for months and then waltz back into work.

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flowery · 30/04/2014 19:14

What are you suggesting? Has your friend asked for redeployment? If this is possible they would probably do it. What else does she think they should do?

Jinsei · 30/04/2014 19:28

Well the company will lose a nice person. So some one can accuse a person of bullying wreck their life for months and then waltz back into work.

Yes, just that, I'm afraid. To some extent, I think it just comes with the territory of being a manager, but it's shit when it happens.

I was in this situation once. An employee took out a grievance against me shortly after I had launched capability proceedings against her. The irony was, I had bent over backwards to help her sort out her performance! She made all sorts of wild, viscious allegations against me and managed to stretch out the process for months, but ultimately she failed to substantiate any of her claims, because obviously, there wasn't any evidence. Although I knew there was no way her complaint would be upheld, it was one of the most stressful periods of my career, and I really struggled to cope. One of the worst parts was the unfairness of it all. She was spreading all sorts of malicious rumours about me, to anyone who would listen, but as the manager, I could only give my side of the story to the investigating panel. It felt horribly unfair, but that's just the way it is.

Eventually, the grievance wasn't upheld, and it was found to be malicious. She came back to work, and I had to line manage her again. I didn't even want to be in the same room as her, but you just have to be professional and get on with it. Your friend is the manager, and that's her role.

Huge sympathy though. It sucks!

Jinsei · 30/04/2014 19:33

Just to add, one thing which I did request when she first cane back was to have a third party present at any meetings that I held with her for a while, even just informal ones. This wouldn't have been sustainable in the long term, but in those first few weeks, I felt I needed a witness because there had been so many lies about what was going on. Might that be an option for your friend?

flowery · 30/04/2014 19:38

She can certainly ask for support and guidance, and if she really feels she would prefer to move, and this is a possibility, she can ask for redeployment.

But ultimately, if she doesn't want to manage this person an alternative arrangement needs to be found. Does your friend have any thoughts as to what she thinks should happen instead?

MegCleary · 30/04/2014 19:43

She thinks the other person should be redeployed the rumors and innuendo throughout the dept are hellish and she panics at the thought of meeting her accuser.

Jinsei you sound amazing but my friend does not wish to be accountable for this woman's work.

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flowery · 30/04/2014 20:13

Is there actually a suitable vacancy that the woman could be redeployed to?

MegCleary · 30/04/2014 20:17

She's been in another area since her "stress" resolved. Been taken off my mates numbers and been left short staffed since the accusation months ago.

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flowery · 01/05/2014 14:12

Well your friend could certainly ask if it's possible for the accuser to be permanently moved, but that would be quite risky for the organisation. It's everyone's absolute right to raise a grievance if they have concerns about their employment, and this woman was obviously very unhappy about something, or felt bullied even if she wasn't. The organisation has already not upheld her grievance, so punishing her for raising it in the first place (as she will see it) might be risky.

MegCleary · 01/05/2014 20:14

But if she felt bullied and there is no reason to be why would she go back or even want to. The relationship has broken down completely.

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flowery · 01/05/2014 22:19

If she doesn't want to go back she will resign or ask to be redeployed herself. If that's what she wants, that's fine. But if she is forcibly redeployed it may come across as being punished for raising a grievance which she is entitled to do.

FrontForward · 01/05/2014 22:24

justtrunknotree Wed 30-Apr-14 16:25:10
I was bullied and got sent to mediation with my bully boss as her punishment. She is still my boss

My understanding is that mediation is NOT punishment. It's a tool for resolving a relationship breakdown.

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