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Sexual harassment - mobile phone taking pictures in the ladies toilet!

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Helpformysister · 24/12/2013 10:56

To cut a long story short a man at my SIL's workplace had a thing for her (it was non reciprocal she is married and happily to my bro) He texted her all the time. And this was nipped in the bud and they thought it was in the past. it happened months ago. They even socialise as a couple with his wife who my sis calls a friend.

Last week she was using the toilet at work and heard a strange sound and found a mobile phone in the cubicle which was taking pictures of her. She knew it was his phone. she immediately deleted the pictures. And went to her boss. Who called him in, he admitted it and suspended him.

However, he was back at work yesterday at a different site. (What the hell?) this morning he has driven past her at the bus stop, then driven to one of the sites she'd be passing on the way to another shop and waved at her.

My blood is boiling. My brother is having to be restrained so he doesn't go and knock his head off.

I would appreciate advice on her legal position.
It is a small company, with several shops.

My Dad has sought advice from his friend on the police who works in this area, who has said the man could end up on the sex offenders register.

The add to the mix my father also works there and the owner of the company is a friend (acquaintance).

I know she needs to ring the police. But she is frightened.

(I've namechanged)

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SundaySimmons · 24/12/2013 14:51

Report to the police.

I've had two starkers. One was dangerous.

The other one was pretty similar to the one you have mentioned. Thankfully the police calling round his home and speaking to him in front of his wife was enough for him to see sense.

Hopefully this fool will realise a visit from the police is serious and he needs to stop harassing your sister in law.

Helpformysister · 24/12/2013 15:44

Thank you.
He has been suspended again.
And she is going to go to the police.

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SundaySimmons · 24/12/2013 23:10

My mistake as such was saying good morning to a bunch of workers who were standing outside smoking where they worked around the corner of where I worked.

One chap decided that my good morning was especially aimed at him and over a few months was always outside when I was coming and going from work.

Then he followed me home in his car. Then I got a postcard every day from when he was on holiday and flowers and more cards.

He was never crude or nasty, just soppy and declaring his undying love.

He would cry when I said please leave me alone and I then started to ignore him and that seemed to spur him on and he would be everywhere I went. I went to the police when he approached me with his adult daughter and she started crying and begging her dad to leave me alone when I told her what he was doing and said I told the police I felt daft because he hadn't threatened me but they were superb.

I know I hadn't said or done anything to encourage him but it does sap at your emotions and make you feel awful.

My other stalker was a park worker on loan from another council and he started leaving me disgusting notes on my car as to what he'd like to do to me. I informed police and council.

The council allowed me to park for free in a place where I was nearer to work and they cut back trees and shrubs so everywhere was more visible. Unknown to me the police had plain clothes police follow me and the stalker got wise to them and I stopped getting the notes. A week later he attacked and stabbed a girl in the park out of frustration at the police following me.

The other girl survived and the man was caught. He was a family man never been in trouble before and he went to prison.

It is a horrible feeling being harassed and stalked because you just never know when they could snap.

No right minded person stalks another person knowing full well their attention is unwelcome and they twist it in their minds that their behaviour us acceptable and you are the one that led them on. That is not the case and I hope your sister in law is taken seriously and this man is made to keep away from her.

All contact with him and his wife should be severed and it may be worth her changing her routine for awhile.

Hope she is ok and her husband does not take matters into his own hands no matter what the provocation is.

Best wishes to your sister in law. X

RestingActress · 01/01/2014 20:14

Shock Sunday that is such a chilling tale, how awful for you.

Help I agree that the police is the right way to go with this, hope it is swiftly resolved

meeeemo · 01/01/2014 20:28

yes go to police and report. sunday, how horrible for you!

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