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Need to get my confidence back............. but how??

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mammasmadhouse · 16/12/2013 19:54

Having worked in the finance administration for 4 years, I got a new job and returned to a more public centred role, which was where my heart was. However it was made clear that I wasn't the preferred candidate, so clear that I asked whether a role was being created for xyz because I was constantly being told that my JD needed to change and that this task was going to be done by xyz, but never was. After 5 months of being tested (I did everything that was thrown at me! and more than the previous post holder) I got a new job in my old sector.
However my role is very new to me and not in an area I have worked in before and I have very no support and no information as to how things were done previously.I feel so low on confidence and lonely. I have been here 3 months and am not sure if this will be a long term role for me at all. Where I can I am doing internal training to add to my skills. I am worried about making a wrong decision/move and worried about how I explain possible 2 very short stints. I have been thinking about doing a course maybe to give me back my confidence and another focus but even that I am not sure what to do. I am qualified up to A level and have completed Admin NVQ's as well ECDL any help or advice would be very much appreciated.

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mammasmadhouse · 20/12/2013 15:00
Hmm
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EBearhug · 20/12/2013 20:11

Could you say you were temping?

CareersDragon · 21/12/2013 15:01

It doesn't sound like you're at all happy in your new job. Do you think you might be bringing the negative experiences in your previous role with you to this one? Are the people you're working with friendly? Sometimes, to protect oneself emotionally, we can close ourselves off to the outside. This can mean its much harder to form new relationships & to feel a part of a new organisation. Do you think you may be doing this?
Why do you think that this job may not be for you long term?

mammasmadhouse · 22/12/2013 17:41

Hi All

Many thanks for your replies.

I am the only admin person in the centre, my boss can be difficult and very unpredictable. The person who did my job before me left for a more team centred job which is less isolated and where she feels she knows what her role is and what is expected. It is quite a lonely job, some days I may not see or hear from anyone.
I do think I can be guilty of shutting myself off from people as a form of self protection, however I have and do make an effort to keep in contact with friends in the dept I worked in previously. A few of my roles have been working in support of a team but not directly part of a team, so I guess I have got used to being on the outside, taking things in, and seeing how some people have been treated and are treated by colleagues has reinforced this on top of this I am a worrier and wouldn't like anyone to think that I am not competent/capable. Long term there just doesn't feel enough for me to do. I am just really not sure what the answer is anymore or where or what I should look to do to change things.

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CareersDragon · 22/12/2013 22:07

It doesn't sound as if the problem is yours alone, Mammas - your boss doesn't sound as if he/she is helping you. Can you talk to him/her about your feelings of isolation & uncertainty? If there isn't enough for you to do, maybe you could offer to help them by taking on some parts of their job? If part of the problem is that they are too busy, they might be very grateful! At the same time, if you spot ways of working that would be better, or other opportunities for the business, you could actually carve yourself out your own perfect job!! It doesn't sound as if your boss is going to stop you.

On the other hand, you say that you're thinking of re-training. Is there anything in particular that interests you?

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